So I've been going out with this shy girl (we're girlfriend/boyfriend), but something just doesn't feel right. I know she likes me but the way she acts towards me says the exact opposite.

I'll give you a few examples of what I mean.

• When we're hanging out with our group of friends and I suggest we go off on our own (since we hardly get any alone time as it is), it's almost as if I have to drag her away. And most of the time she'll sit there and just say "I'm fine."
• When I hug her, she just sits there, stiff. I don't know, maybe I'm expecting too much if I wanted her to hug me back or at least have some type of reaction.
• If I don't say the first thing to her, she won't say anything to me. I can show up in my friend's basement (which is where our gang hangs out) and walk past her twenty times and she won't even look in my direction and you can forget about a "hi." What the fuck?
• When I ask if she wants to watch a movie or hang out somewhere, she'll throw a "I don't care" at me which I guess means "yes." But it really seems like she just doesn't give a fuck about anything and makes no effort to keep this relationship going.
• She says she doesn't like to talk on the phone so we talk on MSN at night. Whatever.

Basically, I'm the one doing all the affectionate things. And I've let her know that it's okay to loosen up around me. But she still won't and it's bothering me. I don't feel good when I'm hanging around her because I feel like I'm bothering her. Like I'm just this annoying pest who keeps nagging on this girl whose too shy to say anything about it. I know that's not the case because I've talked to her about the things I just typed. She claimed that was just the way she was to everyone.

Am I asking for too much in a relationship? Is asking for a relationship where two people like each other and not afraid to show it too much ask? I just want to know. Because right now, this relationship isn't making me feel good at all. It's actually getting me a bit depressed.