I think we broke up..and now what? (4)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-06 07:57 ID:jrCDzdYZ

Today I think my boyfriend and I just broke up. We have been having trouble threw the whole summer because we where busy and I think growing up and heading different ways. I knew since we where so young when we started to date and dated so long so we would have to break up sooner or later. So when we finally broke up we both cried and didn't know what to do. So we said we will meet later and see if we will keep on dating. But I know he has been been wanting more freedom with his life (since he is in his early 20's) and I said I can not still be his friend or talk to him if we are not dating because I love him more then a friend. But he is begging me to come back because he does not want to lose me as a friend. And I don't know what to do. I so confused I hope I am doing the right thing by leting him break up with me. I don't know if this even makes sense but I'm so upset I can't think of anything else.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-06 09:24 ID:d8l5r9RO

I do apologize if this sounds poorly, and I don't know any more than what you've said about you & him to go on, but he's sounding like he just wants to "get around" more, and have you as a backup in case his adventures dating more people don't work out...

A couple things make me believe that...

  1. "Letting him break up with me"?

(I thought you guys were breaking up together... I'm thinking the full story is that he's the one telling you it's over, but he still wants you around...)

2. "He has been wanting more freedom with his life since he is in his early 20s"
(You don't sound like a controlling person, so I hardly see "I want more freedom" as a valid excuse to break up... Sound like he'd simply like to get-around more, if you know what I mean... A decent guy doesn't need "more freedom", if he's satisfied with his relationship with someone he loves...

The fact that he's begging you to "come back" even though he apparently wants to break up with you means he at least would like to have you on his speed dial as a backup girlfriend at best, a friend with benefits, at worst...

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-06 12:36 ID:XDCllPvo

I'd like to know how far you threw him and where.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-08-06 13:23 ID:bllrloWf

You mean how far she carried him and to where?

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