i feel like scum (11)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2007-09-06 13:12 ID:hvNeLc02

I have a huge problem.
I've been in love with this girl since january of 2006
Problem is, since last september i've had a girlfriend who isn't her
I'm recently realizing that i don't love my girlfriend even nearly as much as this other girl.
It's tearing me to shreds, as i consider myself of generally outstanding morals (no cheating, etcetera)
I need help
I don't think I'll be able to keep up the relationship much longer like this, and i was considering leaving her anyway because i tear my girlfriend's grades down a lot and she's starting school.
halp?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-06 13:25 ID:pzJ7lGXc

Easy. Dump your current girlfriend. She'll be unhappy but it's the best thing for her and she'll find a decent guy who really loves her. Ask other girl out. If it works out, great. If it doesn't, you did the right thing and eventually there will be someone else.

3 Name: Anonymous : 2007-09-06 13:32 ID:hvNeLc02

that's the thing, i still DO love my current
and i loathe the thought of anyone else touching her

4 Name: Anonymous : 2007-09-06 13:33 ID:hvNeLc02

>>3
and she's absolutely crazy about me (which i've never understood)

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-06 14:33 ID:aXYg0nes

The solution is simple, stop thinking about this other bitch.

Also, instead of making it so your gf's grades are lowered, make sure she gets the time she needs for schoolwork, you can even do school-related shit together.

You need some emotional self-discipline, inner strenght, that's the whole thing. You can do it if you try, it takes time to break old habits but once they are broken things will be much better.
Do what you have to, to do the right thing. If you break up you have failed ultimately, and the same things will keep happening over and over, through you and to you.

Good luck swimming against the current.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-06 14:43 ID:eYBgTI9q

I would ask the other girl out before breaking up with the safe bet. If she says yes, then tell her you can't go out with her until you break it off with the current girlfriend. This way it isn't cheating. And I suppose if she says no, then you might be able to get comfort sex...

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-06 22:49 ID:YsLnZcxl

Don't bother with the other girl. She's just an infatuation, and it will pass. You say you love your girlfriend, so stay faithful and be strong. I'd also break off contact with the other girl for a while [or forever] so you can start to forget about her.
Help your current G/F with her studies, like do flash cards, quiz her, things like that. It'll be a LOT easier for her to remember things if the one she loves shows that he cares about her education that much. Plus spending more time together will hopefully bring you closer to each other emotionally. Good luck! =]

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-07 06:07 ID:aXYg0nes

>>7
Good advice, on 4-ch???

Also your love for someone grows if you treat them lovingly yourself, the relationship will grow stronger so you have nothing to loose. Invest in your girlfriend, do things for her.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-07 14:54 ID:eYBgTI9q

Loving two people at once does happen. It's hard to classify something as "just an infatuation" 100% of the time because sometimes, you really do run into the real love of your life while you happen to be seeing someone else. I mean, if it never happened, life would be too conveniently arranged.

Personally I found myself in a similar situation at a point in my past. I was married, I met someone else with which I really hit it off. Rather than agonising about it (this is a lie, I agonised about it a lot too) I told both parties (not at the same time, though that could have been interesting.) My wife took it pretty well, to the point of trying to encourage me to follow it up. The third party unfortunately turned me down, due to the marriage. At that point I had to make the call, break off the marriage to get her or keep it, and I chose to keep it (though it ended two years later.) Still, nothing bad came of the incident itself, which goes to show that if you're with a good person already, she will tolerate this sort of thing if you're up-front and honest about it. Unforunately not everyone is that good, which is why I would do it behind most girls' backs. LOL

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-07 23:31 ID:dgWB/YHX

Rape them both

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-09-09 02:12 ID:Heaven

Rape >>10, and don't give him a reach around.

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