>>11 It's diffrent in your case - you two were not romanticaly involved and you outright told the guy so - he should have had enough intelligence to ge it after the third time I suppose :)

But... if you two would have been romanticaly involved for some time and then you decided that you don't want to be anything more than a friends with the guy - that there is the problematic part for us guys :( How does one be a friend to a girl he loves, but she does not love one back? It's like the girl said to the guy "Ok, I don't like you enough to date you anymore and I'll find someone else who is better than you. But meanwhile I'll say to you I want to still be friends so that I don't feel to bad for dumping you." No matter what you girls say to a guy after dumping him, this is what the dumped guy hears in his head. Saying you want to be friends with a guy you just dumped is like the most cruel thing a girl can do to a guy.

In >>11 's case: the guy had issues. Screw him and find yourself someone more sane. The rest I wrote to vent my soul and to hear others thoughts about the matter.