"Can we just be friends?" (36)

17 Name: lol : 2007-10-21 20:25 ID:07spR04c

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what is going to happen if you get labeled a bitch for being honest? Wouldn't the guy be in the wrong then? How is it not forgivable? Hell, your status with most men around you would go up for being direct and honest. In this day and age men would rather be told to fuck off than to be a friend. We want the same respect you'd give a damn dog. Fine, you don't want romance, cool, but give us respect. Stop manipulating us and stop lieing to us because YOU can't deal with your peers. Don't break our hearts three times in a row by denying us romance, denying us a friendship, and then denying us basic human respect. We are not objects to be manipulated because our advances are inconvenient to you.

And I hope you realize you've pointed out just how selfish the freindspeech is on the womans side. It isn't given to the male because the person wants to be a friend, but out of a desire to not receive punishment from society. It has very little to do with the feelings of the person that has started to care about you.

As for your question:

1) no man wants to assume the person they care about is a liar. There is always this stupid desire to give each girl the benefit of the doubt that unlike other girls, she may be honest and really want a good friend. Until a man becomes bitter, he will give each girl he likes a chance to be better than the girls before her.

2)It really amazes me that girls can forget that it is harder for guys to find smart and cool girls than it is for a girl to find smart and cool guys. It also amazes me that normally the girls who talk like this are the very ones that say they hate other girls because they are dumb and full of drama.

You say "would probably be a lot less lonely if they didn't waste your time going after someone who's already made it clear that they're not interested in them romantically" and you'd be right, if there was a magical pixie land were there was a plethora of smart, cool available girls. But there isn't anything like that in most towns. There is normally just a handful of worthwhile women in each town unless you move to a city.

That is why you get guys that won't go away or are obsessive. Those kind of guys are lonely on a level that you've probably never known and you are probably the first girl in a long time that was worthwhile and atractive to come into their life.

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