"Can we just be friends?" (36)

28 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-22 08:44 ID:eLt7oHlF

>>27

So your definition of the word "friend" is someone who's potentially interested in you romantically?

Why approach a 'cool guy' rather than hit on my friends? I don't know, perhaps because they're my friends. I'm not looking for any sort of relationship and I like my friends as friends, plus at least two of them are very very gay. My male friends don't look at me as potential date material either, and it's not because we don't get along or anything, it IS possible to be friends with a girl without any pretense that you might become romantically involved later.

Ten guys that fit the profile to you, a guy. I'm not saying they're not relative standards, but you can't claim not to be setting any sort of standard when you say that, it might be your standard of what constitutes a 'cool, attractive, worthwile woman' that's rare, but perhaps my impression of what constitutes a 'cool, attractive, worthwile' guy is equally rare. Oh but if I say that I've obviously got insanely high standards and want a Brad Pitt or whatever. I know it's difficult to find someone who shares your interests, and admitttedly girls and guys tend to have different ranges of interest.

How is "Is that your own low self esteem asserting itself?" not an attack on my character?

And the funny thing is this whole time we really haven't been at odds on the topic at hand. I really don't agree with the friend speech either but the point I was trying to make is in all your pleads to see it from the guy's perspective, take a moment to look at it from the girl's too. There's more than one side to it.

For the record my whole impression of the thing wasn't based just on that one experinece. Maybe I've been very sorely misreading your posts but you made several comments that gave me the impression that you were defending the asshole -- "lol, so I take it that this other guy was not smart, attractive or worthwhile? Romance is so sad, everyone wants "smart, attractive and worthwhile" and yet most of us don't even come close to making the cut ourselves. What a pathetic and sad paradox we all must live with." And I should have phrased my "you have no right to comment" thing better, the point being that the information I gave about the situation was simplified and you don't have to make sufficient information to make an assessment like that. I put up with the whole thing because I did feel bad for him and I understood that he was lonely, I was lonely too, but I have no sympathy for him now after how much trouble he caused me.

This thread has been closed. You cannot post in this thread any longer.