what the... ?? (15)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-25 07:21 ID:11U0pj8g

goddamn /love/

what's happening to me?

Last week I joined a friend of mine with his friends-group. I didn't knew anyone else except him.
in that group I met a very nice girl..
we talked a bit, but after a while she started serious flirting. I didn't knew what to think and removed myself a bit from her. talked a bit more with others. I think she was really nice and stuff but was confused at first. after some hours I started flirting back because I was getting interested in her.
this kept on continuing untill she had to leave.

the next day, I talked to her again on MSN, and well, we had a looongg conversation about all kind of things. Also I was getting a clearer impression she really liked me. and in facht, I didn't sleeped the night before and after because I had to think of her..

I did knew what happened to me, I was falling in love.. it might be strange to fall in love with someone in 1 - 2 days but it happened..

exactly one day later, she told me she's gotten herself a boyfriend.. like WTF!? >.<

She instantly stopped flirting..

I;m more confused than ever. What's up with these kind of girls? What does she wants to reach? Should I give up on her? I normally do not give up fast. and I even feel to make her dump her BF for me.. I just need some clear honest opinions which I know I can find here :-)

just ask questions about the matter if you don't have a clear picture yet.

anonymous XD

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-25 07:26 ID:kdHxPsH8

A - She lost interest in you
B - She never liked you like that to begin with.
C - She might be playing The Phony Game with you.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-25 09:25 ID:hDWf36id

She was probably messing with you. Don't bother, move on. Don't chase after her. please don't.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-25 10:08 ID:CjIAd/MP

she talked to you, therefore she owes you sex.
make sure she is aware of this before or after you fuck her

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-25 11:03 ID:11U0pj8g


she might have. I don't really know. mayb she was just desperate for some "love". If that's the case she's just pathetic I think.

>>2 and.. losing interest so fast.. hmm.. strange XD

she never liked me that way to start with. --> could be, but she behaved very different to other guys in that group.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-25 13:21 ID:SVBjtl+G

If she seemed to like you, and has only just starting seeing someone else you could still be in with a chance if you can show you're better than the other guy. Just another possibility.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-25 14:56 ID:suuxjLCE


Same opinion,... Why give up so fast? Take the time to get to know her, and see if she's interesting for you.

If it turns out that she's nasty, then just forget her.

8 Name: OP : 2007-10-28 11:26 ID:11U0pj8g

>>6 >>7

thanks, was thinking about that too.

in the meanwhile she invited me over because she felt lonely.. Don't know what to think about that. I couldn't go meet her anyway, my schedule was a bit tight lately..
I also heard she can't be herself near him and that's something bothering her (duh). She didn't told me that herself, I got that from someone else. I'm wondering how long it will last.

any advices?

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-28 12:31 ID:6+osxgIz

>>8 if next time she invites u and ur free, go for it, u mite be able to get closer and know her better.

i once met a girl quite similar to u, cept shes flirty with everyone and only used me for emotional support, once she didnt need any she just ignored me, shes was flirty to everyone cos she liked the feeling of being liked by people. so watch out for that.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-28 15:30 ID:Heaven

if she invites you over because she's lonely- it sounds like she's just using you as some sort of lapdog. get out! GET OUT ASAP!

11 Name: OP : 2007-10-28 16:11 ID:11U0pj8g


she;s only been flirting with me that day.. But I understand your situation. Those girls are just plain evil >.< and you can do nothing about it.. They kill their victims mentally. pats on the shoulder


whoops, explained the wrong way I suppose..
I was talking about the fact all my friends were way too busy lately, So I didn't hang out a lot lately.
She replied, yeah I'm lonely too. Wanna get over?

it's a bit different image isn't it? ^_^

If the only reason was she was lonely.. I would've declined I suppose..

12 Name: OP : 2007-10-28 16:37 ID:11U0pj8g


I'm talking to her right now. but her dad is watching along.. That doesn;t feel comfterable >.<

And he thinks I'm not a normal guy, she's telling me. that's due to the free-hugging we did.. xD
to be honest, I do watch anime and so on but.. I'm not dressing myself like I'm watching any. or behave me like that..
it all just doesn't feel good somehow.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-28 18:11 ID:X73CnXxP

Don't bother, move on. Don't chase after her. please don't.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-10-29 04:31 ID:Heaven

I don't know about chasing after her or not- but around her parents- no free hugging. keep touching to a minimal until her parents know you both are going out and they're comfortable with it. the last thing you want to do is have a bad impression. even if she is comfortable with that around her parents- you shouldn't do it unless you want to risk having a relationship where you have to fight her parents all the time

15 Name: OP : 2007-10-29 11:11 ID:kbVo5xXX


we did that in a city somewhere when her parents didn't see us, With that group I stated in my first post.

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