Having a affair (25)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-01 18:13 ID:ZLWUAnhN

Well I haven't exactly got on now... uh there's this guy he's 7 years older than me and... ah you know.
I never had an affair before and I don't know if it's good to have one so I'd like to ask you guys who have experienced this what it's like and if you think it's worth it?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-01 18:49 ID:UAsKgxz8

>>1

If you like to be fucked, yes.

If you want anything else, forget it.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-01 22:13 ID:kUCu9b4Y

So, you are going to cheat on your significant other? why?

If you are going to cheat, dump the person you are currently with. It's not fair to him and if the situation was reversed, you wouldn't like it either. I won't really offer advice here because I don't truly support your plans.

If you are going to have an affair, you should figure out why you want to have an affair instead, what are you two as a couple doing wrong and what does the extra person doing right to entice you.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-02 03:07 ID:LhMBnjlc

dump the person you're with you stupid whore

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-02 08:17 ID:F7IuLAXC

lol what a slut. because ur going to want to keep these memories of being a cheater and a slut and fucking old men. when ur old and alone.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-13 17:48 ID:AmjexY3n

dump then fuck

or stay with your man

it's as simple as that. if you do anything else, you're a horrible person.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-14 09:51 ID:o6jqrQnv

she won't dump the other person that's why she was thinking of having an affair... she seems to like the thrill of it. hope you get caught though, what a mean & egotistical whore.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-14 10:42 ID:b1h7ckBV

umm 7 years older... pretty dead sure they just want sex. why dont you just fuck with your normal partner more often. sheesh, are you honestly that dumb?

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-14 12:09 ID:07A44kLK

If you're looking for advice on how to be a slut, then you came to the wrong place. Get bent, bitch.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-14 13:29 ID:Heaven

As a man who's been cheated on, I can comfortably tell you to fuck off if you're really going to cheat on your man.

Grow a fucking spine and break up with him if you need that sort of thing.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-14 13:37 ID:b5hGTg/X

Wel,... it depends

It may improve your sex life, and bring about a wake up call to your present relationship. It also entails significant risks. Nevertheless, not doing anything is also not a good solution, if something is unsatisfying in your present relationship.

Just use this opportunity to think about what your really feel and wish for yourself.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-14 15:46 ID:j/lSL/O+

Gee, those people. OP, listen to >>11

It can be even healthy for the relationship to have an affair. But, if your boyfriend is like any of those guys above, you might want to hide it from him.

Most people think that monogamy is sacred, but it's actually a social construction. People were not made to live and die having loved just one person in their entire lives. Not even one at the sae time!!! That's a fairy tale.

Now, you have to be very open minded, and feel very secure about what you are doing, or else you might feel remorse after the affair, and that might sully the relationship.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-14 16:29 ID:21xeMxkV

Under no circumstance is it healthy or right to have an affair. That's bullshit if I ever heard it. You don't fuck around with other people when you're already in a relationship. There is no debate about that.

If your current partner isn't satisfying you, talk to them about it. If you can't have your needs met, then break up with them. Don't go fucking another person behind their back. I shouldn't even have to go into the reasons why, but among many other things, it's disrespectful and a betrayal of trust.

>>11, I don't know what kind of life you've been leading, but don't come here preaching that bullshit. It's not alright to cheat. It never was. It never will be. And like >>9 said, OP, you came to the wrong place. No one in their right mind would support you in your endeavors.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-14 17:46 ID:b5hGTg/X

>>13

11 here,... Of course it's not healthy to have an affair, you don't need to beat a dead horse. An affair is a symptom that something is not going well, that your feelings, beliefs and reality are in conflict. If you read carefully my reply, you will not see that I endorse having an affair.

Now that being said, there are worse things than having an affair. Often, because of lack of experience or conflicting beliefs, people find themselves in an impossible situation from which they don't know how to escape. Having an affair is often the consequence of it.

This does not make having an affair the best way of solving problems, but in the end it's often the way people really use to get themselves out of a dead end.

As for my personal opinion: you need to believe in monogamous relationships in order to have an affair. Otherwise you can't have one, no matter the number of partners you have ;-)

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-14 19:11 ID:2JU+tTx4

>>2
>>3
>>4

Who says this poster is a woman?!?!?! EW

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-15 01:34 ID:DPc6ozCw

Geez, you guys are too fond of monogamy. What, god is going to spank you in the ass f you have an affar? I will not try to convince you, i guess the monogamy myth is too deeply buried nto you guys.
I've no problems with affairs, i even convinced once to my gf to had one, and our relationship improved. She felt liberated. I do endorse an affair, under very special circumstances.

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-15 01:46 ID:b8VKARKn

>>16

Dip yourself in a vat of acid.

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-15 01:52 ID:Heaven

>>17
NO U

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-15 03:37 ID:2ccGnraC

>>16

Convincing your girlfriend to have a threesome is not an affair.

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-15 07:43 ID:AmjexY3n

>>12 you might feel remorse after the affair, and that might sully the relationship.

Or maybe the fact that you fucking put the significant other you supposedly care about through HELL is the real reason why your relationship might be sullied as a result of cheating on them. Jesus Christ, if you think a good relationship is one where only you are satisfied, please, for the sake of all that is good in the world, just kill yourself now.

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-15 07:59 ID:AmjexY3n

>>16
An affair is not something that both partners know about, you dipshit.

There's nothing wrong with non-monogamous relationships. The problem is when one partner wants to do things with other people, and the other partner isn't comfortable with that. If both people are comfortable with the situation, then it's fine. That's a lifestyle that's fine for some people. But if you're bored with your partner or there's a problem in your relationship, and you decide to just go fuck someone else without breaking up with or even trying to talk with your significant other, then I think it's safe to say that most of the time, you're going to seriously hurt them. Moreover, if the person you have an affair with gets attached to you, you might wind up hurting them, too. And of course, there's the strain that it threatens to put on YOUR psyche, since you are, after all, cheating on at least one person now (two, if you don't tell the person you're having an affair with about your current significant other).

And that's why you shouldn't cheat on your significant other. Don't get me wrong, I'm a pretty selfish person. I think people ought to be selfish. But they shouldn't be unreasonably self-centered. People shouldn't do whatever the fuck they want with complete disregard for how it affects others. You CAN fuck person B while having a relationship with person A even if it causes person A to stay up until 6 am freaking the fuck out because he or she doesn't know why you won't talk to him or her about what's wrong with your relationship, and you CAN simply ignore them and let them pathetically cling to you because they're too much of a pussy to break up with you -- thereby allowing you to continue to enjoy having sex with person A while at the same time fucking person B, even though it causes person A unspeakable psychological trauma -- but come on, man. Have a fucking heart. Just break up with person A and fuck person B. Or talk with person A and figure out a way to fix your relationship. It's not that hard to avoid causing massive damage to the people around you in the process of pursuing your own interests. Seriously.

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-15 16:51 ID:WoLQDSqG

Don't have an affair. Just don't.

23 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-15 16:51 ID:WoLQDSqG

Don't have an affair. Just don't.

24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-22 01:57 ID:EnFalb4u

>>21

As a person A, I agree. In fact, it's turned into a huge mess for me.

25 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-22 03:53 ID:Heaven

attack the weak point for

> massive damage
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