I practice magick and I agree with >>3.

Some schools of magick are highly opposed to anything which attempts to affect the Will of another. Others will have no moral issue with it but admit that Will vs. Will is often futile.

I fall into the second group, magick to affect another's Will is unreliable at best so the best strategy is, as with many other things in life, to change yourself.

This can mean using magickal techniques to change yourself, such as invocation, or you can create charms. But charms often work by faith so if your faith in your own abilities is weak then it won't pay off (you could also get a charm from someone who you do have faith in.) Invocation is a more direct (though some would say more inherently risky) method of changing your personality, but I see it no more dangerous than using drugs to do the same thing.

On top of all this, even when using magick you still have to put in effort. Just as when you want to win the lottery you need to buy a lottery ticket first, when you want to win a girl you need to get yourself noticed. Saying nothing and just watching doesn't count... although I would be a hypocrite to say this right now. OTZ