Girl problems, o gawd please halp (16)

1 Name: tabarnak : 2007-11-07 01:07 ID:KEl52US+

It seems that whenever I talk to girls they just find a way to leave as fast as possible in order to end the conversation. I literally only have time to say about 3 words before they find some excuse to leave. Another that bothers me is the fact that all the girls seem to like the low-life, low-achiever types. The type that does jackshit in school and spends all their time skateboarding or some shit like that. I bust my ass to get good grades and I work hard, yet all the lazy shits are getting GFs. I'm 17, btw.

Every girl in my small school pretty much thinks I'm a loser now because I don't drink myself into oblivion every weekend. Are there some places where I can meet new, semi-intelligent girls in a relaxed setting? I picked up skiing last year and I'm thinking that I'll be able to meet some whenever I go to the local ski hill, but I'm worried this will fail because of my shitty-ass social skills.

Halp me please?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-07 05:33 ID:u6BEZDEw

Maybe you should become a lazy shit.

3 Name: 43 : 2007-11-07 06:21 ID:Heaven

Wait until 2nd year of college, then your brain will grant you popularity provided you're not an arrogant asshole.

4 Name: 43 : 2007-11-07 06:23 ID:TabzXRah

didn't mean to sage

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-07 08:20 ID:mNWMTqOu

>>3 listen to this man, and value your hard work.
But also, try to look harder, see if you are missing someone's presence. Some girls you tend to ignore.
Also, don't try to fit in, its useless and a waste of time.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-07 08:21 ID:6PDbBpAU

>>1 Find an arcade with DDR. Girls love DDR. They'll flock to your sexy dance skills. Right guys?

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-07 10:26 ID:A4y9hN/P

Talk to girls who can't get up and leave, like during class. But really more sound advice is for you to just sit tight and go to a big University next year. Bigger schools mean that you only have to deal with the people you choose to, and there will be a much wider variety of people there who don't know a thing about you.
I support >>3 and >>5 as well. If all the fish in your small school really are as bad as you described then find something other then girl prospects to focus on. Try learning and instrument or writing a short story or draw etc.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-07 14:24 ID:D3xayn0a

if your worried about your social skills just pretend they are male. after all, girls are still human, so really theres not much point in treating them differently than anyone else. that way they will get to know your true self (most guys i see talking to chicks never seem to act how they normally do and it never works out). all it takes is practice so you build up confidence in yourself. that could take a couple of years but in the end it will pay off.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-07 14:40 ID:lAr/ykgo

why not try to just be friends with a girl (or several) then maby someway you either get more used to talking to girls about anything and then when you have the courage you can find a way to ask a girl to be more than just friends.

what I am saying is that you donĀ“t have approach a girl with the thought of going out with her from the start.

Maybe it is better to create a stronger bond first like friends.....

When you get more courage then you can ask other girls out not necesary your "girl"-friends.....

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-11 20:03 ID:uF92ZkiH

I agree with 8. If you want to meet more intellectual/celebral types, try joining a library group or something. Also, if your school has any clubs, you might want to check them out. I know for a fact that not all teenage girls like to get drunk.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-11 20:32 ID:+uxaMXyd

Tabarnak >>1

Let me speak to you from experience. In my high school career, I suffered from the exact same situation. Although I did put most of my time into my skateboarding, I never "drank myself into oblivion". This really cause me to be different from the rest of the students. I didn't relate as well to them because of that. Of course times have changed a little and now I'm in College (The girls liked jocks when I was in high school and definitely steered clear of us skaters). Let me just say, there is hope later. It may seem that these girls don't like you and thats probably true. Most girls don't mature into woman for a few more years. At that point I assure you they will see you differently. They may not think you are amazing, mainly thats because no person on the face of the Earth has the attention of every lady, but I know for a fact that there will be more women listening to you.
I think you are where I was when I was 17. I was a lot more mature than the rest of my classmates. Although this has boosted my status intellectually, I felt hindered at the time. I think back on it now and realize that I wouldn't have had it any other way. Times change and people change. I'm glad that I was able to discover myself to some degree while I was in high school and not define myself but what others wished I was. I think you are fine. You just need to continue being who you are. If you change, you'll ultimately never be yourself around the person that desires you. They will only desire what you make yourself out to be. However, truly you are someone different. My advice to you is to remain who you are. DO NOT CHANGE! be proud of who you are and stick to that! Girls all come around in time, there are plenty in this world. It has nothing to do with you, it has more to do with where they are at in their lives. Good luck.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-11 20:34 ID:+uxaMXyd

Listen to these guys

They are correct! (-_-)

oh and yes DDR skills are always a plus+ >>6

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-15 16:56 ID:uF92ZkiH

>>7 Somehow I doubt that any girl that would agree to talk during class is concerned about their grades.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-15 17:23 ID:3rMwz2/O


15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-27 10:34 ID:EaCt/Hah

Try to find some common ground when you talk to a girl. Like maybe for example, if you're in class one day, and the teach is being a complete ass, and about everyone feels the same way, use it as a conversation starter. "ugh, this class blows" "yeah i know" blah blah blah. Think of it like, playing "Questions" but instead try to veer it towards a great direction. Plus, confidence is key. If you can't work the nerve to have a level head for a conversation with a girl, then well you'll be left in the dust. And plus, you shouldnt judge people by who they go for or what they think, everyone has their own story. Maybe money, familial, or peer issues, you never know. I knew a couple women back in high school that were just like what you explained, but behind all that, theyre actually good people, just the wrong influences @ the time. And think about why they go for the "skateboarder" or the "dancer," probably the skill they have or the charisma that they portray. I know a bunch of skaters from my high school that got into college off the bat, so theyre not all that bad. Think about it this way, if you have the qualities of both worlds, as in yours and that of the "skateboarder" then wouldnt you have a better chance then just the "skateboarder"?

Theres plenty of women out there in the world. If you find one that fits your fancy, go for it! dont hold back at all, I mean well, its worked for me so far through my life =]

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-11-27 11:06 ID:87OHLwLT

Those girls see skateboarding as a passion. Women like a man who is passionate about something. When you're passionate about something like skateboarding its quite obvious, they wear skater clothes and are often seen with a skateboard. When the girls mature they'll see that actually there are lots of other passions than ones that are initially obvious. Give it some time, a year or two, they need to catch up with you and win you over.

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