Dealing with the Ex (2)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-17 00:56 ID:Op9nqy5n

I'm going to a leaving party next month as one of my old high school friends is jetting off to South Africa for 6 months. It's a good ol' high school reunion, which should be fun except for the fact that one of my ex's and her current boyfriend will be there.

A little backstory. We dated back in 2004-2005 for 10 months, my longest relationship. Soon after we split up my life fell apart and I had a breakdown. We never spoke to each other after we split up, when we were together immediately afterwards I couldn't pluck up the courage to speak to her. I tried a few times to talk with her (last time was about 18 months ago), but each time she brushed me off and assumed I was trying to get back with her.

Her current boyfriend is someone I work in the same building with, and we don't get along very well. When we do cross paths, it's usually with some angry glares t one another. He used to be my best friend once upon a time, so inside that also makes me feel pretty hurt.

It took me a long long time to get over the relationship (about 18 months), and when I first heard about their relationship I was pretty distraught. Nowadays I don't think too much of it, but when I do see pictures of her or messages by her (I accidently stumbled across her facebook profile a couple of weeks ago) I have a sudden panic attack and start shaking.

The question here is how I can have a good time at that party without it being ruined by either her, or my reactions towards her. I've accepted the fact that I'll probably never speak to her again since it'd be too awkward, and I don't have any romantic feelings let towards her, but there's still a big underlying feeling of hurt, and I don't want it to get the better of me.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-17 01:02 ID:AI1273T4

Just avoid her and talk to the people you're friends with. There was a time when relations between me and another girl had become pretty bad (after royal fuckup in attempting to make another pass at her after being rejected a month before), but whenever we were at events together, I just avoided her and talked with my friends and other people. It worked out great, and I'm pretty sure both of us had a good time, despite not being comfortable around each other.

You'll be fine. Just don't look her in the eye, and always smile.

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