it sounds like a cultural difference. if that's bothering you, you guys should talk about it but keep in mind that your values and hers may be different. espeically if she comes from a much more eastern/collectivist culture either being raised in a very traditional family or she grew up there. Here in the west, autonomy is of the biggest value but there the greatest value is that of community. What's important is the group and harmony and one puts their own wants after those of the family.

it may seem weird to westerners who place the highest value on personal freedom to give it up for the greater good of the family but in many cultures putting one's personal freedom first is considered selfish.