How does one go about flirting with a random girl at say the mall without looking like a weirdo?? (11)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-20 09:02 ID:oycrVSaq

How do you do it I can only do it when a girl sends me signals but what about a totally random girl who hasn't noticed you without just poping up all "hey baby!" and getting the "Eeww omg wtf are you!?"?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-20 09:25 ID:jQlwkoeP

And if it's the middle of town, then just ask a question on the neighborhood, on the shop (if you are at a shop), etc, and proceed from there,...

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-20 12:29 ID:d8jP8OPS

you need the PUA stuff. try juggler's method.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-20 13:07 ID:N8ZBUukf

I would go the "I'm looking for a present for my niece, what kind of things did you get when you were a kid which you enjoyed" angle. It's a cliché but in a shopping centre it seems ideal.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-20 13:24 ID:khedLDtV

yeah that might work.

start off by saying "hi i need a female opinion on something.." don't ask her if you can have her opinion cos it gives her a chance to say no.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-20 18:54 ID:boqPaDIg

Hey Hotaru how do I flirt with random girls at the mall without looking like a weirdo?

I don't know. How do you talk to guys you just meet for the first time?

How about, "Hey, 'cogent observation here'", smile, and eventually introduce yourself.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-21 05:43 ID:Heaven

Hotaru doesn't need any advice. His love relationship with himself is going great.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-21 09:36 ID:Heaven

techinically all of /love has relationships with themselves, more specifically with our hands.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-21 13:32 ID:GUU5qjJR

>>7

Wow. Don't kill the messenger. If anything I am quite self loathing. Doesn't stop me from talking to people.

Look, if you want to be whiney and mopey and not get anywhere with people, be my guest.

All I'm telling you is that Pick Up artist crap doesn't work and makes you look like a stupid douchebag.

The best way to talk to girls is to ...oh..I dunno...TALK to girls.

Don't come across leg humpy and desparate. Good god, they make new girls every damn day of the week.

Another thing, don't go looking for love. It's like that New Order refrain:

It grow so slowly, it dies so quickly
and when it dies it dies for good
it's called love

What that means is that there really is no such thing as love at first sight. Just lust. There IS a difference. Loving a person takes time....if it happens at all. The problem with a lot of people, especially here, is that they try to rush things and see things that are just not there.

Goddamn, you don't even know her full name and you're already planning the wedding.

Slow down.

Talk to people. Build a little relationship. Not so much romantic but any kind of a relationship. Crawl, walk, run. That applies to SO many things in life.

Some of the way you guys come across is just like going up to a girl and saying "Hey wanna fuck?!" That might eventually work on one, but not one you'd really want anything to do with.

But Mr. >>7 here...buddy you got it all wrong.

I'm not all that into myself, I just know how to talk to folks.

Like I say AGAIN, if you find yourself talking to a girl and are already planning the wedding before even finding out her name...then..well...you are doing it wrong.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-23 01:48 ID:kxDgcnPC

Good place to start is somewhere you like to shop (obviously) so you have an idea of what you're talking about. Talk to her about some piece of merchandise. For example, if she's a in a bookstore, ask her how that book she's reading is, or if she's seen a certain title. Remember to be PROMPT. She'll notice if you ogle her for 5 minutes before the approach.

If she's responsive and interested, turn the conversation topic to HER. Ask her what SHE likes, where else she shops, etc. Now you're flirting! Get her number!

If she's cold and answers tersely, sorry, no bite. Maybe she has a boyfriend already, maybe you creeped her out, whatever. Practice is practice.

Girls can be just as nervous about being approached as guys. Don't forget to be light and casual and remember you probably won't hit a home run on the first try. Maybe a base hit.

11 Name: Slurry of the PENINSULAHH : 2007-12-23 11:47 ID:ZG4p0kFW

if youre hot, and well if youre not. :S
looks make things alottt easier. :)
like i would never talk to a random ferral.

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