I LOVE HIM (23)

1 Name: Slurry of the PENINSULAHH : 2007-12-23 12:16 ID:z4GTNO8m

but were supposed to be just "fuck buddies" and he called it off like a month ago to be with this other young girl.. saw him at a party last night and 5 mins we were rooting in a cupboard. he never cheated on his girl before and it was me.
we cant resist eachother but we cant be togehter.
hes king of the suborbs and isnt willing to give that up for me (everyone knows his name)
and im not prepared to be around or do drugs to spend time with him... even though he doesnt particuarlly do drugs. :(
help??

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-23 16:12 ID:Heaven

> but were supposed to be just "fuck buddies" and he called it off like a month ago

I think you should have not agreed to this.

> im not prepared to be around or do drugs to spend time with him... even though he doesnt particuarlly do drugs

I don't understand your reasoning here.

> help??

If he's not going to be with you for anything other than sex, you can't make him change his mind. Do what you can to move on.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-23 17:25 ID:bJdogSpy

Here's the problem with fuck buddies, friends with benefits, casual sex, and such: Neither of you are supposed to get too attached, and it turns out you have. That's not your fault, you can't help falling in love with someone. But you ought to get out NOW.

He's fucking you without committing to a relationship. That's not cool. And if he can't make a few sacrifices for your sake, he's not worth it.

King of the suburbs? What is he, Mr. Popular? Do you want to be Mrs. Popular?

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-24 08:00 ID:y9lURDo4

>King of the suburbs? What is he, Mr. Popular? Do you want to be Mrs. Popular?

Good point. OP, reconsider the relationship.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-24 13:58 ID:v82o7bgC

>>1
Going by your writing you're either too young or too naive to even consider being in a serious relationship right now.

>he never cheated on his girl before and it was me.

He didn't cheat on her because he likes you. He cheated because you were there, willing, and able.

"King of the Suburbs". Give me a break.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-24 19:46 ID:Heaven

>>3

> He's fucking you without committing to a relationship. That's not cool.

I think that's the type of relationship that was agreed to.
It's hardly his fault >>1 agreed to something she didn't want.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-25 00:53 ID:kbYtS5Mp

>saw him at a party last night and 5 mins we were rooting in a cupboard
>rooting in a cupboard
>cupboard

Wait, so you fucked around with the guy in a cabinet? Classy.

Lol.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-25 01:01 ID:9LesdInx

>>7

You didn't just capitalise the first letter of lol, did you?

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-25 12:41 ID:Heaven

They also punctuated it. Rofl!

10 Name: slurry of the PENINSULA : 2007-12-26 08:07 ID:z4GTNO8m

Problem is he says he loves me!!
its sooooo screwed up.
haha yer "king of the suburbs" couldnt think of a shorter phrase to describe him. He is like a "gang leader" but theres no gang, everyone bows down to him and praises him.
We were fuck buddies, yes; but then we both got attatched and he came over yesterday and explained that he doesnt "want his heart broken" again, because there was 2 other girls that he once loved, one moved overseas and the other left him and laught in his face.
He doesnt particuarly do drugs, that means he does them like every seccond weekend. But if i were to be with him the people the are often around him are stoned or "baked" pretty much 24/7.
he is 18 i am 17. i know were young and this is probably stupid.. but its really affecting me.
Youre words have been so helpfull so far and your true honesty is greatly parised.. because when you say these things, in many cases i agree, though i have been lying to myself and ignoring these facts when they come to my own mind. Hearing someone else say what ive already considered but ignored is really a powerfull thing and helps me see things more clearely. thanks guys, youre all so sweet. xo

11 Name: inni minni : 2007-12-26 08:48 ID:z4GTNO8m

Thats so sad. i had something like that once.
it really is love, you both know it, i understand it..
its like on a movie when you watch, and she cant be with him becuase he's poor and shes rich.. like the notebook kind of.
I know how you feel.
Eventually you either come together happily, or you go to him misserably and break up under the pressure, he comes to you and misses the "fame" oorr it just gets left as sex and wears off after a while.
But i know they will always have a peice of you.
Just know they do lie annnnd as a girl you likely multiply the emotional stuff, because guys normally arent so emotional when it comes to things such as sex as girls are, it doesnt affect them so deeply.
Just be carefull.
But i wouldnt give up either.. maybe just only talk occasionally and see how it goes if he comes over a couple of times or you go there and talk but have NO sex.. if he still wants to see you when he thinks he wont get any then, keep on keeping on and just watch your step!

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-26 18:32 ID:w6MHUaus

IT'S NOT LOVE
YOU JUST LIKE HAVING SEX WITH HIM
YOU CAN NOT LOVE SOMEONE WHO SHOWS NO EMOTIONAL INVESTMENT IN YOU

FGSFDS

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-26 18:43 ID:Heaven

>>11
At least type differently if you're gonna be someone else.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2007-12-26 19:06 ID:cnSCjrtg

>>8

Aw, fuck off. I like my grammar proper and nerdy, thank you very much.

15 Name: lazz : 2007-12-30 08:01 ID:z4GTNO8m

ii think i knoww youu!! where r u from????
r u talking bout jamie?? r u a langy kid coz like "PENINSULAHH" makes it lyk i no u thats wat we cal tha place im from
hes a whore ive herd this stori lyk azillion timez bout him im from franga and ur a idiot for been with him

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-10 23:25 ID:4NGUf5Eq

Get over him.
It happened to me before. I still feel like I love him sometimes, but then I remember that's FUCKING RETARDED, guys like that are complete dicks. Go find someone worth it.

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-11 06:42 ID:Heaven

>>1

slut

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-17 08:54 ID:z46a2X9g

>>king of the suborbs

That's an interesting connotation.

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-01-17 23:40 ID:Heaven

This is a retarded thread and a very retarded OP/girl.

20 Name: Khurram_777 : 2008-01-18 10:55 ID:g2eeHoTp

Im a sincere.romantic.intelligent.much faithfull and lovly person....BEAUTY is not important for me,

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-11 09:50 ID:z4GTNO8m

nothings changed

22 Name: 43 : 2008-10-11 09:53 ID:0wAil+1T

>>21

Try dating other people.

23 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-11 12:19 ID:Heaven

Please die.

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