I have a few questions and I was wondering if I could get any answers here, since I didn't know where else to post this.
I recently got to know this girl, and we were friends for quite awhile. It's clear that she has something for me, cause she's been throwing hints at me for 'it'. Now I dont have a problem about giving it to her, but the thing is, she's not really pure. She had a relationship with a guy before and she was abit of a lesbian. My question is :
1) If I had sex with her, will I get any weird diseases(syphillis, herpes, etc) from her, assuming if her previous partners are clean?
2) Is oral and intercourse still safe at this point, condom or no?
3) What're the chances of me getting HIV or AIDS from her?
Sorry if I sound like a wuss, but its my first time so I'm kinda worried and stuff.
Yeah, you sound like a bit of a wuss. Worst, you sound uneducated about sexual health.
1) STD's are transmitted through sexual contact (although there are a few you can be born with, such as herpes) Generally speaking, if someone's partners were clean, that person will be clean.
2) You should use a condom for intercourse if that's your only option against pregnancy and/or if she does indeed have an STD. Condoms for oral are if SHE has herpes or YOU have an STD.
3) If her partners were clean, and she wasn't born with it, then the odds are zero of getting HIV
Bottom line: Who cares if this girl isn't "pure". Girls today aren't going to wait around and stay virgins for you. Your concerns about STDs are valid and you ought to ask about her history and deserve an honest answer but most of these could've been answered in 8th grade Health class.
Hey I'm not OP but I also have a question on this topic...
I've been seeing this girl time to time and if we do get sexual I don't know if I should ask about her sexual health? If I ask if she has STDs or HIV I feel more like I'm gonna get slapped in the face than getting an answer.
How should I approach this topic?
better safe than sorry, if you think you are going to have any form of sex, wrap that shit up.
and never be afraid to ask about her sexual history, shoot ask her if she ever got tested. if you know things are going to reach that level then dont risk it. better pissing her off than getting a STD.
>>3
If she would slap you for asking, you don't want to be putting your dick in there in the first place. What's more important to you, your health, or not accidentally offending someone? Jeez.
The best way of proceeding is to start by using condoms. If you feel comfortable, and a stable relationship is developping, then you should discuss about giving up usage of the condom with your partner. This implies both of you making an HIV test, to confirm that no one is at risk, and then agree that if one of you is unfaithful in the future, he/she will use condoms,...
don't rush. seriously, if you yourself don't really feel up to it you're just making it less awesome for yourself. and during the sex don't rush. it;s just like masturbation, the longer you take (within reason) the better the outcome.
none of this is from experience btw. man now i'm depressed.
Firstly.. are you in Asutralia. LOLLL
sorry but thats me and well, here, STDs are extremely prevelant with the minors. :)
"2) Is oral and intercourse still safe at this point, condom or no?"
WELL answer: IF SHE HAS STDs then NO it is NOT SAFE.
STDs are transfered between sexual juices and although the acids in your stomache (from licking her out) would likely kill any inturders, through you digesting it you are likely to contract.
ALWAYS USE A CONDOM ... i dont care if shes on the pill and gets tested that says she DOESNT have stds, because people lie annnd if she is a dirty, she likely will root someone else while shes with you and who knows, he/she could give her something to pass on to you !!
DONT DO IT.
she sounds like a gutter rat. haha (no offence) and i dont care how hot she is.
if she hasnt always used protection FUCK HER OFF.
im abit permiscuous but i ALWAYS use protection annnd get STD tests... for me, my excuse is ITS AUSTRALIA! so i know that 2000 people under 18 in victoria have AIDS/HIV, though considering i dont know where you are, i couldnt tell you how easily you could get aids.
IF YOURE IN SOUTHAFRICA (where im from at birth) DONT EVEN HAVE SEX UNTIL YOUR MARRIED !! youd be madddd. lol
and with this shit hanging in the back of your mind, you wont enjoy yourself.
and also you will just be "another root" to her.. even if you are a virgin. DONT DO IT, youre likely being used.. i know because i see it all the time where i live.
best advice is DONT GO THERE.
and btw she'll be loose as a bucket if shes fucked around abit. annnd well thats no nice memory for a first timer... and the tighter they are the easier it is to make it feel good for THEM AND YOU sooo doing it with her might just make you look like a shit root.
sorry buddy.
come to aus if sex is what you want, its a root hole around frankston here and no one will let you without a connie, so you wont get sick.
What percentage of people under 18 is 2000? I'm genuinely curious because this relates to my interests.
>>8 gives shit advice. Having a boyfriend before does not equal being a slut.
well i took it as though shes had sex with MANY people before !!
sorrrryyyy.
i mean having a boyfriend.. ANNND GIRLLSSS.
having girls means more guys generally.
where are you from?
just get her tested or something.
USE CONNIES. thats all i can say.
thats all i do.
and if you dont get her tested and do shit with her.. get yourself tested reg because most common STDs are treatable..
but not aids. thats for sure.
>>11
what
If it's a once off just use a condom. seriously. I wouldn't worry too much.
If you wind up together with her give it a while (a few months) and if you both want to stop using condoms (if you're still that nervous), then you can both talk to each other about whether you're clean or not.