The truth lies somewhere between being a nice guy and being an asshole. I know I like someone relatively attractive and fun who I know is able to defend me if worst comes to worst. A lot of what I get out of being with a guy is the sensation of being smaller. Don't completely emasculate yourself, allow yourself to be bored and change the subject when she bitches about life with you, but be there for here if something big comes up.

But the whole being there for her shit comes after you've gotten her interested in you. If she's complaining about some problem to you, say something like "come on, let me take you out to lunch to take your mind off of it." Then change the goddamn subject. Get her laughing.

I like manliness. I broke up with my last boyfriend because he was emasculated, and shoved him so hard into the "you're my best friend in the world" category it's disgusting. Girls don't actually want to be constantly complimented and clung to, because that's boring.