If I were him, I'd want to get back my independence.
I'd want to get up and do things on my own, but the inability to do so would be frustrating.
I'd want my de facto nurse to make me take on as much responsibility for myself as possible. This would naturally make it easier on her, too.
I'd also hope that there aren't a lethal amount of painkillers next to my bed so I don't try and end the indignity.
I'm not your fiance though, so I don't really know what he wants.

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In a situation like that I would be quite offended at #2
Bring something like that up very carefully.