On Thursday I was with a girl who I met last month. We'd actually met before, two completely different mutual friends were responsible for our reintroduction. Anyway, we've been talking, and she seems to want to help me be a better person, improve myself, get with girls, etc. She's pretty touchy-feely with most people, but she was really hanging onto me a lot more than I expected. We went to a few bars with some of her friends and finally headed home at some horrible hour of the morning. I had her drive my car since I'm a lightweight and was still in no condition to drive. As we're driving we're talking, and she tells me to say what's on my mind. I'm starting to like her, but I don't want to say anything about that. I pull out some BS stuff that's true, but not quite the point. She's implying she knows there's something else up, but we shift subjects. I ask her why she called me out that night, and she says I'm interesting- someone who needs help with getting out of being incredibly awkward. She wants to help me, and thinks my awkwardness is cute. Soon after we shift to other subjects, but at one point she grabs my hand with her right hand, and drives the 20-something miles to go to my house one handed. As I don't resist, she shifts her hand to a more "comfortable" position and I move mine into a better position. I'm scared, happy, and everything else all at once. We get to my house, talk a bit more, and then she asks- "what did you think of the hand holding?" I say it was good... That I went with what I thought I needed to do in the moment. Then we talk a little more, and she heads home. We met up the next day with some of our friends, but nothing like the previous night happened. Still, I'm wondering... Is something going on between us? I like her. She at least sees me as someone she's comfortable being around, but she also knows I like someone else more (I don't have much, if any chance with the other girl), and has tried to help me along with her. But I think there might be something build on between us... Or is she just being extremely friendly?
I know you don't want to hear this, but she's fucking with you dude. Help you be a better person? Improve yourself? Only you have the power to do that, man. A girl is the last thing that will help in sorting yourself out. Like I said, you probably want to just ignore me right now because things look good, but I'm telling you the truth. There is nothing going on between you two. She's just seeing fun in fucking with you so you think there is. You seem to be a bit shy around girls and some girls (or bitches, rather) will play on that. She called you ackward. No, she doesn't think it's cute, she thinks you're a fucking loser and is basically mocking you.
I don't want to be the bearer of bad news, but it's the fucking truth. I would know since I've been through the exact same thing multiple times. I know you've heard about those conniving seducing bitches that artists sing about in their songs? She's one of them.
Don't play her game, dude. Tell her to fuck off or if you really don't believe me, see for yourself take a few initiatives and you'll see how much she actually respects you.
Don't tell her off OP. Fuck with her back. Find a way to throw her own game back in her face. What would that way be? Well, I can't thnk of everything.
abuse of her friendship. have her buy you stuff or go to places she doesn't enjoy. if she really likes you she will do the things you ask, if not, atleast now you know without putting yourself in a position to be mocked.
My instincts say she's treating you like a puppy dog.
Maybe a play thing or a charity case.
But it is remotely possible she wants to sex you. If this was the case, I doubt she's interested in anything more than the novelty of deflowering a virgin.
Incredibly unlikely she wants you. You're just a cute charity case for her. You could just be an ego boost thing for her, to make her feel good by a)making you less shy b)always having a backup to accusations e.g. "oh no im not a bitch, look I've been helping X with girls!" or c)she wants you to fall in love/lust with her so she feels pretty and then denies you.
Sorry man. By all means, try to improve yourself and you can always take some input from her if she advises you on things like clothes or whatever, but just don't think this girl is your saviour.
Welcome to the N.H.K. It's a conspiracy.... don't cha' know?
Welcome to the N.H.K. It's a conspiracy.... don't cha' know?
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To some extent I think you have a point... However, we have certain mutual friends who would smash her into the ground if she is just fucking around with me. People who have know her much longer than me, but also people who I know I can rely on. I doubt she would place her friendships with them in jeopardy by doing anything to me. I will try to prod a little bit and see what she's really thinking though. Head it off before I get in too far emotionally.
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If that remote possibility is true, I wouldn't be opposed. Let her get the novelty, and me a good time. At this point, I don't care how it happens.
> If that remote possibility is true, I wouldn't be opposed. Let her get the novelty, and me a good time. At this point, I don't care how it happens.
I've been in a similar situation, and I used this same sort of justification to myself. Things didn't pan out, but I tried to hold my chin up on words like those. Didn't last very long until I realised that I couldn't just act like it was just a fun fling and that I didn't really care, because I really was hurt and I really did care.
Anyway, that line of thought only holds true with strangers you flirt with. Words of warning.
yep, it's a conspiracy alright. just play along as well as brace yourself.. i you get to fuck her then it's all good and prolly real.
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Back off before you get owned.
The above comments are all pretty dead-on. She has exactly zero interest in having any kind of relationship/sex with you. In the absolute best case scenario, you might get some pity/charity sex. But she will use that to control you and make you into her personal plaything. She doesn't see you as a man, she sees you as a labrador.
I'd be fucking pissed if I were you
Of course there's possibility that "She is really like you", and if that's true well.. lucky you then.. But if you still doesn't clear about her motives, it's save to Never put your hope too high.. perhaps this advice could be said as the 'coward stance', but stick to the worst case scenario: "She Just Playing with you" or "She just think you as good friend" and be prepared before you started to like her too much..
Take it from another girl; she has issues. Seriously, helping you become a better person is all fine and all, but she is crossing the boundaries. Don't get involved with someone as irresponsible as her. If you end up getting hurt, she will be the last one to admit her fault and face up to the consequences.