OP here, to >>5: agreed, me and her had a chat yesterday, she has been kinda avoiding me, turns out she felt bad about "leading me on" or whatever, apparently someone asked her if we were going out and she freaked out. So I explained that I get how complicated it is and that no matter what happens I would never assume we even could go out given the current situation. I think she was pleased, looks like we are gonna meet up again this weekend.
So now I just have to work on convincing myself its all fine just to be her friend...