couple pictures on social networking sites (25)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-11 12:41 ID:Pd7TJL81

hey all,

would you expect your significant other to post that you guys are 'in a relationship' and post up 'lovey dovey' pictures on social networking sites like myspace, facebook etc.?

for those of you who do/will post pictures and acknowledge the relationship, what's the reason for doing so?

and for those of you who don't/won't do so, similarly, what's your reason and mentality behind this?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-11 13:11 ID:KOAKcOVd

>would you expect your significant other to post that you guys are 'in a relationship' and post up 'lovey dovey' pictures on social networking sites like myspace, facebook etc.?

Whether I would expect it or not depends on that person's character. I would certainly not appreciate or allow it,...

>and for those of you who don't/won't do so, similarly, what's your reason and mentality behind this?

1 - It's my private life, I don't need to advertise it to the world (that's taken care of by marriage, if needed).

2 - I also don't like to post pictures of me on the internet, since you never know if that will be used against you in the future.

3 - Relationships do end, and it's probably impossible to remove all the information from the internet, once it has been posted. I don't want to have a public record of my past relationships that anyone can check (can you imagine in twenty years having your kids ask you who was the girl you were kissing in whatever random picture?)

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-11 13:12 ID:SMjrg8Dp

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-11 13:35 ID:eKsc/KjV

interesting viewpoints guys/gals.

wow never thought of it that way.

what if your partners wanted it as a form of assurance or security?

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-11 13:36 ID:Sg4EHjX3

what if the 'lovey dovey' pics weren't intimate ones, just a shot of both of your smiling faces?

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-11 13:42 ID:Heaven

>>4
At best it's a false sense of security in exchange for your personal safety and privacy (much like the issues surrounding ID cards, TSA, etc).

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-11 14:04 ID:suHtaYdO

>>6

umm...its just facebook. anyway, what's the worse that can happen if you select 'in a relationship with "so-and-so"' in your relationship staturs?

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-11 14:18 ID:15rted4b

Perhaps I'm a cynic, but I wouldn't expect her to give a fuck whether the internet cares about our relationship or not.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-11 15:34 ID:h3oTBa8p

I probably wouldn't put a picture of us up. I don't want to be thought of as being part of a couple, I'm an individual. If somebody adds me on facebook/whatever they know me as an individual so I don't see why I should have lovey-dovey pictures up. Also, I don't like to see public displays of that cheesy level of lovey-dovery pictures of other people, so I figure I won't post any of those pictures of me. I generally have as little information as possible online anyway, so people can't even see if I'm single or in a relationship. If they're my friend, they know anyway.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-11 23:32 ID:Heaven

>>4
Why not just force your lover to tattoo your name on his ass?
Maybe have him wear a dog collar, too.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-12 13:08 ID:JdIaEiKS

>>10
>>9

if everyone knows anyway, what's so hard about just clicking the correct status ie. in a relationship when filling out your profile. isn't it the natural thing to do?

12 Name: Northert Roll : 2008-02-12 13:13 ID:tIbpkJpq

>>11
And what so hard about typing your name and email in the textbox labelled "Name" and "Link"? Isn't it the natural thing to do?

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-12 13:51 ID:Sg4EHjX3

aren't you people proud of your significant others? i don't see why you wouldn't want to show them off unless:

-you wanna appear single to attract more attention and flirt

-you're ashamed of your partner cos of looks or any other reason

-you're not sure of the stability of the relationship

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-12 13:57 ID:Sg4EHjX3

do you post pictures of you with your pals/friends/buddies/siblings/parents?

if yes, then what's the difference with posting those pics and pics of you and your partner?

isn't your partner part of your life as well?

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-12 15:01 ID:h3oTBa8p

>>11

I don't give out any information. My facebook is my name, and eventually I added a profile picture. There is no other information; no age, no sex, no relationship status or sexual orientation.

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-12 16:04 ID:Heaven

"Facebook A Black Hole For Personal Info"
http://yro.slashdot.org/yro/08/02/12/1354255.shtml

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-16 18:13 ID:eKsc/KjV

i'd expect at least an acknowledgment of status. i'm okay with not putting up pictures.

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-17 00:34 ID:+rRrj1Wl

>>13

> -you're not sure of the stability of the relationship

No relationship is 100% stable.

For me it's incredibly distasteful to break up with someone (in private as these matters should be) and then have to log on to facebook to remove the relationship status, so that everyone she knows gets a item in their News Feed that says "John Doe's relationship with Jane Smith has ended".

It's not that I would plan on ending it, but I'd rather not cause any unnecessary pain by being forced to make that break-up so incredibly public.

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-17 02:33 ID:1UJHlGpI

This thread is like old versus young. The young feel the need to prove their love, the old already know it's there.

If he/she is dating you, it's usually a sign that they care for you. If having a picture of the two of you on the Internet defines your relationship, it was fragile and meaningless anyway.

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-17 05:14 ID:Pd7TJL81

>>19

hmm its not that the internet thing DEFINES the relationship, but rather it's like a very natural add on.

as i've mentioned...if you put up pictures of you hanging out with your best buddies, your siblings, relatives etc. it feels weird that you'd be consciously NOT including your significant other.

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-17 08:12 ID:Q5gBTHgj

It's PDA = public display affection

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-17 08:15 ID:Q5gBTHgj

It's PDA = public display affection

23 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-21 01:37 ID:+xhKEd77

posting pictures is just fun, IMO. i always post pictures of me hanging out with my buddies, playing guitar hero, going to the football game, etc. some people post pics of themselves with their gf/bf. its just fun.

24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-21 07:15 ID:2I8eBpiy

I've done it.

It's done for the same reason couples kiss in front of their friends. To make them jealous.

Also, I'm a bit possessive so I like it if I and my girlfriend are listed in a relationship on Facebook and have pictures together - sort of like a 'stay away' warning for people who meet my girlfriend in class or her coffee shop or whatever who look her up.

25 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-21 13:23 ID:Heaven

>>24

>It's PDA = public display of affection
>It's done for the same reason couples kiss in front of their friends. To make them jealous.

The possessive part isn't really better.

In my opinion, putting up "in a relationship" in your profile is enough. Maybe putting up a pic of you with her, but naturally, as you would do with your other friends.

All the lovey dovey stuff, keep for yourself - it's private stuff, interests nobody, and the only thing you achieve outside your couple is boring and/or pissing people off.

This thread has been closed. You cannot post in this thread any longer.