So I confessed to this girl (32)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-19 02:06 ID:O9rrEW0o

and she is like I am going to think about it and let you know...what does this mean?

2 Name: da PG king : 2008-02-19 02:32 ID:eO7TTuUR

It means "I dont know you well enough yet, but I could like you..."

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-19 04:27 ID:WLDzk1Do

look at what 'da PG king' posted on other threads and see if his saying is trustworthy

anyways it basically means no, wrong way to "confess" dude

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-19 06:15 ID:O9rrEW0o

wrong way?

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-19 07:11 ID:Heaven

it means she'll think about it and then she'll give you her answer

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-19 07:59 ID:3royFFdb

>>5
I support this notion. There is no certainty that it is a no either. Perhaps your move was a bit risky, but that doesn't mean you failed here.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-19 17:03 ID:Heaven

> I am going to think about it and let you know

Girl-Speak to Simple English Translation: "No."

It's still better than the dreaded "I just want to be friends"
Girl-Speak to Simple English Translation: "Never."

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-19 17:04 ID:O9rrEW0o

:( so i have do i have any chance still?

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-19 19:05 ID:93atACCq

I think you still have a chance, just continue to give her reasons to like you,... Be nice, attentionate, sensitive, listen to what she says, and act upon it.

Basically, as long as she doesn't reject you, there's no reason to stop trying.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-19 19:57 ID:wr1aGXs8

>>9

>Be nice, attentionate, sensitive

No, don't. Doesn't work. Stay open but put some distance, like you don't care. This way, if you have a chance, SHE will want to come closer.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-19 22:46 ID:dfw5JQvK

>>10 He speaks truth

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-19 22:54 ID:a1V98VEn

should i ask her out more then?

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-19 23:23 ID:jTRmP3Bw

It means:

"I don't really like you, but you've put me on the spot here and I don't want to seem mean. I won't let you down now but save it for later in a more impersonal form (AIM, telephone, etc.) or some other time when I'm more comfortable, and make sure to give you the impression I really thought hard about it so you don't feel too bad and nobody thinks I'm a bitch, but mostly just so nobody thinks I'm a bitch."

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-19 23:29 ID:a1V98VEn

speaking from experience? are you a girl?

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-20 01:26 ID:guV/AKFq

>>12
NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO

Don't ever ask her out again. Make her want you, show playful affection to other girls around her (don't go overboard), be the alpha male and trust me, she will be chasing after you - with a crowd of others battling to get you from her.

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-21 01:26 ID:+yTnYHAO

Ive gotten the "i have to think about it" line before. in a nutshell, it means no.

But there are many fish in the sea my friend, just gotta keep lookin :)

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-21 01:44 ID:tKDBm2WC

noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-21 13:05 ID:tKDBm2WC

but it doesn't mean 0% chance right?

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-21 15:41 ID:CHMklUoG

In girlspeak, maybe means no.

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-21 16:01 ID:tKDBm2WC

but there are some people i heard got a yes

21 Name: da PG king : 2008-02-21 16:10 ID:eO7TTuUR

But those people are stalkers that forced the women out on dates (or they are liars)

Put trust in the dick, for when it comes to women, it will never let you down.

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-21 20:14 ID:+yTnYHAO

definitely means No. Move on, man =P

23 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-22 05:14 ID:Heaven

>>21

> Put trust in the dick, for when it comes to women, it will never let you down.

Your right, homosexual men are chick magnets.

24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-22 08:38 ID:+yTnYHAO

>>23

lol, now thats what i call a zinger!

25 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-22 13:29 ID:Heaven

If it weren't for the awful spelling error, it would have pwned.

26 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-23 12:40 ID:5DOVrffF

>>12 NO!

BUT, there is hope yet. I've given a guy friend of mine the "I just want to be friends" thinking nothing could ever happen between us.

So, we stayed friends, and I DID start to rethink my decision (although it was the right thing to do, for various reasons, like his best friend being in the way...anyways) but sadly we were graduating from high school soon after and I never mentioned it again, thinking he wouldn't want me to.

I still sort of regret it now, but one day his car passed my mine on the street and we waved at each other at a red light ^^

So, basically... give her space, and then give her another chance. Don't over do it, but after a while a smile will let her know things are still ok between the two of you.

27 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-23 15:06 ID:wr1aGXs8

>>26
Hey, that's kind of the method I am applying right now... coupled with a lot of work on myself "just because I feel like it", and it's half of the truth - the other half being I want her to see I can be even better, and improve again and again. We still talk from time to time, but she's going to move away for a few monthes.

When she comes back I'll try to see her and see where we are.

28 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-23 18:27 ID:tKDBm2WC

damn what should i do now she hasn't replied me yet and it's been almost a week :(

29 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-23 19:57 ID:wr1aGXs8

>>28
You should get out, walk around the town, do some exercise, read a book, watch a movie... whatever, do something useful for you and that keeps your mind busy.

Do not attempt anything.

30 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-23 20:27 ID:tKDBm2WC

that's what i do...but whenever i am not doing anything (especailly studying) i keep thinking about it...

should i just ask her? what do you mean not attempt anything?

31 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-23 21:36 ID:dfw5JQvK

>>30 Seriously, go ask her out..finish it. You have to hear her say :" no, but i like you blablabla".

Go on, let her rip your heart out and then move on....OR i can say you, that i was in the same situation as you, the thing is i went for it. SHe said no , i like you as a friend. I never stoppped the platonic relationship and one year later she confessed she loved* me and we were a couple. Sure there were some sucky things like she had boyfriends before that and i dated other chicks too...and it ain't pretty seeing her with another guy. Is it worth it? IT all depends how you feel..i only felt like this once, so it was worth all the pain.

Happy ending? No we broke up, that is life..there are no happy endings.

32 Name: da PG king : 2008-02-23 22:15 ID:eO7TTuUR

Or she could say yes.

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