So theres this boy... (54)

1 Name: LadyAnon : 2008-02-24 07:15 ID:N8EyDJ9w

My more recent semester at my college started in January. Since then, Ive taken to hanging out in the "Nerd Lounge". Ive noticed this boy who would come in, touch base with his Magic Card friends, then usually leave. He didn't look anything like the usual suspects, he was clean and well dressed and not at all like a creepy Magic Cards kid.

I finally worked up the courage to speak to him. Ive got some old cards from my cousin, so I told him I wanted someone to teach me to play. He said he would, and Im going to see him on Monday.

I guess my question is, what do I do to make it clear to this guy Ive got a growing crush on him without scaring him off? :<

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-24 22:33 ID:H3RIvmfX

>>3

this anon is a winrar. follow this advice. also dont be fat/ acne covered.

6 Name: LadyAnon : 2008-02-24 23:37 ID:N8EyDJ9w

>>5

I shall

I am also neither fat/acne covered.

7 Name: da PG king : 2008-02-24 23:42 ID:s1irJcKr

Get it girl.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-25 01:56 ID:uAApHbt1

Yeah, Just express interest, and he'll either return it or refuse you. If you have difficulty building up the courage, come to the meeting without any underwear. Then expose yourself. At that point, your ship has sailed and all the shyness in the world can be overcome. Also, try to avoid actually playing Magic. It's a serious buzzkill.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-25 02:44 ID:Heaven

I imagine it would be pretty hard for a girl to scare a guy off. That being said, the advice >>3 gave sounds good.

10 Name: SecretAdmirer!SGRPrwhmGE!!DwFbhmLv : 2008-02-25 03:45 ID:MsD9kWZY

>>1 Please consider what I have to say. I don't think the advise so far has been very useful.

First off: You seem to actually know how to play Magic, and thus it would be incredibly hard to fake it, so rather than ask him to teach you from scratch, emphasize that what you're wanting help with is strategy. This won't seem too out of place, and should be far easier to fake, if you don't actually need the help.

Second: Please do avoid that overly touchy, flirty, etc stuff. It can actually put a guy off because you seem, well, pathetic.

Third: The best thing to do is to ask non-personal questions and honestly just get to know him while playing. Treat it like dinner. Keep the game going, but at an easy pace. When you find things that the two of you appear similar on, smile, show interest in the subject, and point out that you're glad/think it's cool you agree.

When you disagree, feel free to point it out, and why, but don't push the subject into an argument if it appears to be going anywhere beyond light-hearted.

With this casual communication, the natural signs of your attraction such as eye movement, interest in him, body posture, etc should show up. Toward the end of the game (Though I don't know that I'd say to wait until it's over, that would also be ok), ask if you can meet him somewhere or if he'd like to go out on a date with you, if you think he is clearly interested and hasn't asked himself. Alternatively, if you think he's interested but not so shy that he'd be hesitant to ask you out, ask him if he finds you attract, and smile when doing it. It should unfold easily from there if he does like you, and, if not, you can simply keep smiling, nod, and then go back tot he game.

If you've got guts, you can ask him why, and consider his thoughts honestly to help you improve in the future. You could even ask if you've made him feel uneasy 'tonight'. Take it as a learning experience and also know that sometimes people just don't fit together.

Finally: If it doesn't work out with him, get in touch and perhaps we can hang out. :D

11 Name: LadyAnon : 2008-02-25 06:03 ID:N8EyDJ9w

>>10

Why thank you. :D The truth is, I only have basic knowledge of Magic (As in: I know how to boil water, doesn't mean I can cook).

What you've suggested is honestly how I flirt, I'm not one for being super touchy when someone is a stranger since I know that creeps most people out.

I'm going to see him tomorrow, but the actual lesson wont be till later (conflicting class schedules), I have to set up a time for it to take place.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-25 07:40 ID:ax11kyru

Just let him know you are not there because of the magic cards.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-25 07:43 ID:ax11kyru

Tell him that you want him to shuffle your library, if you know what I mean

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-25 07:44 ID:ax11kyru

Tell him that you want him to spend his mana pool on you, if you know what i mean

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-25 07:45 ID:ax11kyru

tell him that you want to enchant his creature, if you know what i mean

16 Name: da PG king : 2008-02-25 13:15 ID:s1irJcKr

12-15 is da shit mayne.

Hold up

Tell him you want to spank his terrain, if you know what I mean.

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-25 19:22 ID:symQnH0L

>>15
lol

>>1 update please!

18 Name: LadyAnon : 2008-02-26 07:24 ID:mzhN+pry

LadyAnon here

Well, he wasn't there today, but my friend reminded me that he has only shown up one on a Monday this whole semester, a long while back. (Im terribly forgetful and lucky to have her around.)

My next chance will be Wednesday, making the meet-up probably Thursday.

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-26 09:10 ID:mb1KMPHu

>>18 Ohhh. Remember to dress according to the weather. I can't tell you how rediculous it is to see a girl in light fabric when it's obviously raining like mad outside. Shows you are impractical and trying too hard.

Good luck!

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-26 17:55 ID:SxysAGpe

strip magic the gathering

trust me

21 Name: da PG king : 2008-02-26 21:17 ID:s1irJcKr

Get it girl...

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-26 22:50 ID:nnTOwauy

Dress up in cat ears, a cat tail, and a seifuku.

23 Name: SpireAtlanta!SGRPrwhmGE!!DwFbhmLv : 2008-02-27 03:38 ID:MsD9kWZY

>>18 Pause for a moment. Are you certain that his not showing up to class isn't indicative of a trait you don't want in a guy long-term? (Not that this can't be fixed.) Just something to consider.

24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-27 04:14 ID:ZN2zvV8T

>>22

I endorse this advice.

25 Name: LadyAnon : 2008-02-27 06:24 ID:mzhN+pry

>>23

It wasn't to class, just to clear things up, he didn't show up to the lounge. If he was not there for the day at all or just didn't visit the lounge, that I dont know. I only see him there.

26 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-27 07:07 ID:ax11kyru

>>20

seconded

27 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-28 03:40 ID:MsD9kWZY

>>25 Oh, that makes more sense. :D Might I inquire as to what this "Nerd lounge" is, exactly? I can't say that I understand.

28 Name: H.K. : 2008-02-28 13:06 ID:MgikMPqu

Wow, awesome, I really hope that all goes well for you. It's honorable that you actually went and obtained cards to play with him, and all. ^_^

Don't get me wrong, but when I read this, at first I swore my best friend was the guy you're talking about...although that chance is very slim...it's just kind of funny because he mentioned a girl that asked him to teach him sometime...at his college, and he rarely shows up on Mondays...LOL. Wouldn't that be wierd? XD

All in all I'm wishing you the best of luck! You gotta report back to this thread when the time comes! Gambatte!

29 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-02-28 23:16 ID:Heaven

>>28 Ganbatte!

Ganbaro!

30 Name: LadyAnon : 2008-03-01 05:17 ID:mzhN+pry

>>27

Its just one of the lounges at my school for people to hang out, its somewhat built up a reputation for being a hub for the nerd element.

>>28

Woah, that would be weird...

Anyway! I apologize for not updating Wed, but he didn't show so I had nothing to report. Today was more fruitful. My usual schedule involves leaving the lounge with my friend at 9:45 to arrive at my 10am class on time. Today however, we lost track of time untill about 9:50.

So we gathered up our things and just as we were exiting the door, I ran into my Magic cards friend. I got his attention and commented he hadn't been around. He said he had, he just had been coming after I leave. We agreed to meet on Monday for the lesson, I gave him my number encase something came up, and hurried to my class.

tl:dr - Saw him today, set up meeting and gave number.

31 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-07 21:35 ID:pE8uO6um

>>30
Protip: he isn't interested in you, if he was he would've taken every chance to be there to teach you, he would probably have suggested a time to meet up front

Not saying you don't have a chance, you'll just have to make him interested

32 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-07 23:29 ID:aist8dkj

wtf

I wonder if there are any girls at my college who think this... About me...

33 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-07 23:30 ID:vfGJvszF

>>1
Just curious. You can make regular contacts with him, can't you? Don't rush.

34 Name: H.K. : 2008-03-08 09:28 ID:MgikMPqu

> LadyAnon

I see...I just read your last post.
In fact, i'd like to point out some things.
Don't be worried about things like what 31 said. At first, of course he's not going to be rushing all around trying to find you every which way. It's the opposite.

  1. We aren't completely sure what he thinks of you yet. Unless you think you know.
  2. So he took a while to set up a time with you to teach you. Big deal, give him a break. Tell him you understand, that could make him feel more comfortable with you. You never know, he could be really nervous about it. Or not. We don't know.
  3. I noticed how you happened to be late that day and run into him.

BANG! Destiny right there! XD Oh, and who knows, since he seems to come after you leave there (since you would have normally been gone by 9:45) he could have not known where you where at that time to catch your attention or talk to you or something in my oppinion.
4. Was he intentionally coming after you left though? I don't think so, but if he seems like it, it could mean 1 of 2 things.
1, he is nervous secretly, and every day can't decide what time to go in there or not based on when you're there because he really does like you, or 2...worst case scenario.

Also, I reread the first post again. You seem to want to find a way to make it clear that you like him, without scaring him?
After you guys play, maybe look into some other things he might like. Like, for instance, ask about his other hobbies, or find out more about in. If you can work up the courage, let him know you're interested in him, and that you've been trying to learn magic just to get closer to him.
If he has any feelings, then he'll feel something big from that. I know I would. I'm a guy. Although not everyone is the same, alot of guys dream of something just like this. lol.

We'll, good luck, I really hope I said somethings that would be helpful...

-HK

GANBATTE!!!!!

35 Name: The Soviet NHK : 2008-03-08 17:14 ID:fHp60FwA

Good Luck LadyAnon. God knows, this thread suddenly makes me want to pick up my long-negleted deck of magic cards.

36 Name: Destined : 2008-03-08 17:22 ID:FC/+tKcN

This is a very interesting predicament. It seems I have arrived late to the situation, as H.K. has posted most of the main points. I also suggest that you flirt with him on your next meeting, but make sure not to over do it. As stated, learn his interests and hobbies, and if you have the courage let him know that you have an interest in him.

Good luck.

37 Name: H.K. : 2008-03-12 22:58 ID:MgikMPqu

>>35 Yea, I suddenly wish to play magic again. I have 5 decks myself. Although magic activity where I live is very low, and I have a friend offering me alot of manga complete sets for my cards...it's kinda hard to decide lol. Although I keep them for my best friend, who keeps his for me, since we find ourselves playing together often.

>>36
Good suggestion.
I too agree it's interesting. I feel like it might turn out like one of those special stories you read in manga, or see on tv or something. XD lol. That would be amazing. The world needs more happenings like these. Plus her story is admirable, considering she is going all this way for him so far.
Those are reasons I continue to be involved and wishing her the best.

-HK

38 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-08 07:30 ID:MgikMPqu

Looks like LadyAnon hasn't posted in quite a while...
Wonder how it's going for them...

39 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-08 20:47 ID:fdAWO8TY

I'd like to know what's going on too >>38

40 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-06 09:55 ID:MgikMPqu

Man! I can't stand it...I really wanted to know what happened too...

41 Name: Sora-kun : 2008-05-06 14:53 ID:W+2IJC2K

DENSHA OTOKO IS REAL!!!!

http://www.rinji.tv/densha/

TRANSLATION FROM JAPANESE TO ENGLISH!
Read the manga and this site. COMPARE THEM! Even the names,date and time are right!

42 Name: soccerfuu9 : 2008-05-06 20:38 ID:E52MZ9YY

>>41 we already know that. Just that a lot of people want to know who he really is. I rather respect his privacy than exploit him.

is this thread going anywhere?

43 Name: H.K. : 2008-06-14 11:59 ID:fHmd/Wja

>>41
of course its real...what do you think the drama and all were inspired by?

>>42
No...it hasn't gone anywhere in a while...I wish though.
I really wish LadyAnon the best.
Wonder if she'll ever post again... T____T

-HK

44 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-14 19:44 ID:BM3PB2L2

Just be your self, you dont have to impress anyone, just talk to him, things will turn one way or another by themselves, but of course, its up to you wich direction, as the old saying says "attitude is the key" and also... dont rush

45 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-15 05:45 ID:OfElHLoi

Is he aware that you're available?
That alone could peak a guy's interest.
If he's not, or if you're not sure he knows, let him know. You can be subtle and casual about it.

46 Name: Anonymous : 2008-06-15 07:06 ID:9bfEVRdY

You're a girl, just start grabbing his dick and he'll respond, trust me.

47 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-15 13:11 ID:j1mbSHT1

Buy him a Black Lotus and he'll love you forever.

48 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-15 15:01 ID:fHmd/Wja

>>46
That was really messed up. All guys aren't like that, and if that's how the relationship is going to be then there isn't going to be anything special about it. >.>

49 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-15 17:29 ID:MSzZJSKu

>>48

those who arent are gays

50 Name: lulz : 2008-06-16 15:23 ID:WDbuYNo5

the black lotus would be THE BEST flower to give a MtG'er EVER.

on that note- find out if HES available, and then mention somehow you are too. he'll prob respond.

51 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-18 06:50 ID:fHmd/Wja

>>49
Guys that aren't gay aren't all like that. Love has nothing to do with crap like that.

52 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-18 07:00 ID:Heaven

>>51

don't feed the trolls

53 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-23 19:39 ID:fHmd/Wja

LadyAnon!! ;-; come back to us!

54 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-26 21:57 ID:fHmd/Wja

This story is kinda interesting, but doesn't look like anything's happened in the last foreverness...hope LadyAnon is ok...

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