Well theres a guy I like..... (9)

1 Name: Zimie : 2008-03-23 02:58 ID:vKJZd6Kq

And I do want to ask him out, however, he's two years older than me, and he graduates this year. We like the same things (anime, manga, games) but, I'm afraid. The last time I ask a guy out, he ends up going out with my closets friend. I been afraid since it ask anyone out. He's also my friend. and my other friend dont even know about these feelings. Only my sister and my dad.

So any help? (._.)?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-23 03:24 ID:bxJhOqyu

lol ur dad?
Just ask him out, it is ok to be afraid, it is the people who have courage to fail a lot who succeeds.

3 Name: Zimie : 2008-03-23 03:35 ID:vKJZd6Kq

thanks, I dont see him until Tuesday, so maybe I'll get the courage to do it.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-23 03:52 ID:bxJhOqyu

>>3
You won't, especially not the moments before, then it will all crash down and you'll feel like the biggest coward ever, you can't build courage with time.
Don't think it over
Don't prepare yourself
Just decide, don't think, go in there and act on instincts. You will be so very scared regardless, but you can do it, and it will make you stronger.

And keep you chin up, doubting yourself is the only cause for doubt.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-05 00:54 ID:gxyP4SAW

What happened? Did you ask him out?

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-05 02:22 ID:Omyfc0Z9

lol.. wow .. courage there.. i can never get myself to ask a guy out.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-05 02:28 ID:GcN7wt1V

Afraid of confessing? welcome to the male world. If you don't do it the "what if.." is going to haunt you to death while if you do it the worst that could happen is being rejected.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-05 22:23 ID:XX3M8ExS

What do you value more? His friendship, or the chance to be with him?

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-07 02:45 ID:gxyP4SAW

>>6

I am a guy and frankly this is what us guys hate the most. Why not? It's not unimaginable thing to do if a girl asks the guy out. One thing is common though. We don't like cockiness if a girl wants to ask us out. Else than that, everything is OK and no guy will look down on you or anything because you asked him to go out. For once in whole human history, we (guys) want girls to consider and experience how hard it is to actually ask somebody out. Even playboys have the same instinctive fear of rejection and fall short as any other guy when they actually do it. I am talking about asking out girls that we DO like, not just somebody you meet on the street.

>>1 The moral of the story is: I, for myself, would be happier if I tried and was rejected than having to continue on a friendship that would do more harm than good reminding me each and every day that I have something so valuable to me before myself and I can't do a damn thing about it. That can screw up one's life like no lost friendship can. And there's those damn "what-ifs" that will never leave you alone in one way or another...

I'd say, JUST DO IT! If you see that he get speechless (men can be that way!) just tell him that he doesn't have to answer right away. And don't tell him that you love him, because he'll think that you don't know him enough for that. I don't want to sound like I am preaching now, because you actually might have your plan on how to do the actual confession, but I'd tell a girl that I like her a lot more than a friend and that I just couldn't forgive myself later on if I didn't confess such feelings of mine. And give him space! Don't push him to the cliff, figuratively speaking :)

You seem like a nice girl and there's a lot for guys here to learn from you. Thanks for sharing that! Frankly, I had a wrong impression that girls are somehow able to suppress their feelings although last summer a girl asked me out :)

Good luck!

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