Trying to get over a cute fangirl. (7)

1 Name: HearMeRoar : 2008-03-23 21:17 ID:RCqn0kuQ

I'm not sure why I'm posting this here, but whimsy's taken over so I'll indulge it.

All through my life I've gone from psycopaths to tarts, as far as women goes. They were all abysmal failures and for years I wished for someone better, someone I could actually fall in love with.

Well I'm at uni now and about two years ago I finally met someone like that. Her name is Caz and she's this cute, shy, anime fangirl. We share so many interests, she's funny, smart, talented and I love her personality...and consequently I fell in love with her. Real love, for the first time.

There are just a few issues.

Firstly, she has a boyfriend. He's this substantially better looking pretty-boy. He doesn't treat her well and they argue quite a bit. To top it off, they're having a long distance relationship.

Secondly, she's a purer person than I'll ever be. She's still a virgin (and is commited to staying that way until engagement), is really shy and introverted and I've become too jaded and cynical to really be able to appeal to her.

At first, the whole no sex thing seemed to be an issue too, but I found myself not even caring about that, happy to wait however long it took, it not even bing an issue...which is still more than her boyfriend does. He's constantly asking her when they will finally have sex.

So after a while I eventually admit my feelings, which leads to this huge drama, albeit most of it internal.

She isn't good at dealing with stuff like this so she says very little. Meanhile, I say very little, and the times when I can't bottle it up and tell someone sem to make things worse.

Eventually it got me in to a huge depression. She was (and indeed is) perfect and was my first love...and I was rejected.

It completely shot-up my self esteem. I couldn't stop thinking of her and it took a while, but I commited myself to getting over her. I knw it could never happen and that I had to give up hope.

Now, I'm on Prozac and still think about her. I don't know why I still think of her. I try and consentrate on her flaws but that doesn't even work.

It doesn't help that we're part of a closely-knit group. If I brak off all contact, that breaks our enire group in half. Truth to tell, I don't want her out of my life anyway.

So there it is, I'm completely out of ideas. Part of me, when I allow myself to indulge in such thoughts, wishes I could just kiss her and hold her, stroke her hair, tell her how much I like her and make her happy.

Still, that's a fairytale methinks. Right now I just want this to be over.

So any advice anyone?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-23 21:31 ID:Ro893rze

It's one of those things you never get over but you learn to live with it. Stop fantasing about her and over time you will slowly forget her (not completely,that never).

3 Name: HearMeRoar : 2008-03-24 22:55 ID:VdLUMrc2

Easier said than done. Like I say, I've been telling myself that for a long time.

I suppose I'm just screwed...

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-25 01:58 ID:zvNIbuI/

> She was (and indeed is) perfect

This is completely untrue, it's a distortion brought on by your obsessive love.

> and I was rejected.

From my point of view, being rejected by a woman who I feel is too good for me is inconsequential.
Now being rejected by eight-hundred pound borderline retarded woman with the personality (and hair growth) of a grizzly bear, that might put a dent in my confidence.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-25 02:05 ID:QceNs1QV

>>4

he actually has a point there about the grizzly

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-28 12:08 ID:y2DH2Lc4

I know how that is. you just get over it in time. It hurts, alot, but just know she wasn't the right one for you.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-31 14:19 ID:Cmu80NZV

Time heals. But it's only because you forget. You can't forget her when she's constantly in your face.

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