your first breakup (20)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-29 14:38 ID:L6X7JzYn

how long did you take to get over your first (serious) love?

and how long was the relationship?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-29 14:47 ID:DxSvZGj9

Took me about an hour.
It lasted for 3 days

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-29 17:26 ID:yvRN3TA6

>>2

i said serious love.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-29 18:09 ID:9WApplyA

My relationship lasted about a year, and ended five years ago. I'm still not over it. In fact, I carry a letter she wrote me in my wallet and read it when I'm alone, and I cry.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-29 18:21 ID:bTW2X598

>>4

Dude. I want to hug you. That's really sweet. I'm sorry for your loss.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-29 18:25 ID:Heaven

My relationship lasted about 8 years, and just ended yesterday. Shortly planning on killing myself.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-29 18:31 ID:L6X7JzYn

>>4

crap. i hope i'm not like you man. my 1 yr r/s will probably end in the next 3 days.

>>6

i feel for you too. my friend got dumped after 7 and a half years. he was already looking at marriage. not his first thou.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-29 18:59 ID:DxSvZGj9

>>3
What are you judging my shit? Who are you to say it wasn't serious love?

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-29 21:40 ID:ePYCDSfn

First and only relationship, for 6 months before my 21st birthday. That's just under a year ago. I wasn't over her for probably a good 6 months - basically I went through a phase of wanting her to be unhappy and me to be happily with someone else (I broke up with her because she slept with her ex-bf) but now I'm just like "meh.." don't really care.

>>4

I'm sorry to say this, but I really think you should get rid of the letter. Sounds like you're clinging onto it because it's something that reminds you of her, but all it does it make you cry and hold you back. You can only live in the past for so long.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-30 10:58 ID:lH7pLwEg

I've been in a very intense relationship for about 2 years, we ended half a month ago due to circumstances: he's going to leave country for good, and I'm way too young to even be able to leave my parent's home. This was my first love and I've had the happiest moments one could ever ask for in a relationship, I believe.

Other than that I've been quite well really, cried in the first week but since then I haven't cried or even thought about it, then again we ended in a good and natural way.

In reality though, it varies accordingly to each person's personality.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-30 17:00 ID:DyHWSawJ

>>10

wow...that's real sad. do you still love him? how about a long distance relationship? maybe till you can go over to be with him?

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-30 17:02 ID:o7YH1cCn

>>8

and who are you kidding?

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-30 20:03 ID:lH7pLwEg

>>11

Nah, I can't afford to love him anymore, things just wouldn't work out now would they?

Also, long distance relationships can't possibly satisfy me since I'm always very physical, I'd be missing his hugs and kisses forever and ever and that would end up in depression... Not in my interest. I really don't believe people should keep themselves just for a "special someone", people need to experience other things.

As I've said before it was my first love and I'm still young, so I have my hopes of finding people who will make me equally happy :) or even more than what I've been before.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-03-30 22:02 ID:czPjzm7u

The relationship lasted around 6-7 months. Took me a couple of days to "get over it" at the time, but every once in a while I think of it and wince.

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-08 00:37 ID:aTbA1K1z

my only relationship lasted almost the 4 year mark. she broke up with me in 2003. Wow its been 5 years, lol. Anyway, it took me around 3 months I think to really get over her. Now its more of a "what the hell was I thinking lasting 4 years with her" lol.

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-08 02:41 ID:l/7A5qsb

we got to 8 months and 15 days... she broke up with me on my birthday 1 week ago. i'm still in the crying stage. idk why i'm still crying, she slept with her abusive ex-bf. she can go suck a fuck... but i still love her......

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-08 10:11 ID:ePYCDSfn

>>16

>>9 here, pretty similar circumstances to me. She slept with her ex a week before my birthday. Told me the day after my birthday. I'm guessing that in some ways you still wish you were with her, but then also know that what she did was unforgiveable. I've now gotten to the point where I don't care about her and what she does. I don't particularly want to meet up with her ever again, but if I do see her I will say hi and do the usual polite things but I don't think my heart will be in it. I won't bother trying to organise meeting up with her, even though a few months before christmas she did suggest meeting at some point and I said yes without either of us setting a concrete time. I don't want to see her current boyfriend though, that just makes me mad.

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-09 04:31 ID:je8+Q5h1

The relationship happened twice. Once when I was 15... he was dating someone else, and I broke it off because I knew it was tearing our friendship apart.

It took a good six months for us to be comfortable as friends again. I still loved him, but I was fine just being super close friends.

Then his girlfriend broke up with him and we just sort of... happened. I was very happy at first, but then I stopped loving him romantically about six months into the relationship.

I broke up with him the day before our 11 month anniversary and got my best friend back.

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-09 04:38 ID:bQn2R3kX

i was 19, and we broke up after a month or so because i realized that we just didn't click. i didn't go in the relationship liking him that much, but i thought i would slowly like him more and more. it never happened.

but i feel like i am still not over him, i know it's weird, because i was just saying how i didn't really like him much, but when he got another girlfriend, i got jealous and i was always checking his myspace to see what was happening to him.

20 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-10 03:35 ID:GpQMWtbC

I was 21 if I remember it right. Lasted for about 5 months, I got over her instantly. We're still friends and I still think about her from time to time but even if I still find her attractive (on all counts, not just physically), i'm not romantically attracted to her anymore.

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