how important is a person's looks? (50)

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-09 06:31 ID:Ng4tprI5

>>4
That's exactly how it is for me, and I'm a girl. The longer you know someone, the more beautiful they become, inside and out. For example, the guy I like often has really noticeable razor burn and flaky dry skin on his face and there's almost always something (gross) hanging out of his nose, and on anyone else that would be kind of "eugh", but I see right past it when I look at him. Because I'm in love with him, inside, and so the outside only looks good. The outside is the physical representation of his inside, of his soul and the words he speaks to me. His razor burned, flaky face is a part of the same body that holds his eloquent, kind, beautiful brain, and so it is beautiful. When I look at him, endorphins shoot all over inside of me because I know that the face and body I'm holding in my line of sight belong to the guy that I'm in love with; this physical human figure, no matter how flawed (and indeed it is flawed), is the physical embodiment of the love-feelings he causes me. That thing hanging out of his nose? Yeah, gross; but it's part of him and I love him, so I can get past that and concentrate instead on that big warm smile right below it. Aaahhh~

However, to be totally honest, if he weighed 800 pounds or had teeth growing out of his nose, it would be hard to get past. Doesn't mean I wouldn't like him yet. I'm assuming that OP isn't 800 pounds and doesn't have an underdeveloped fetus attached to her hip. The only things those sorts of physical obstacles would affect is sexual attraction. And in theory, any obstacle can be overcome.

OP, if a guy is in to you, he will find you attractive. It's inevitable. Good luck being able to be yourself around him; that's important.

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