Ok, so I know this girl, we are both otaku, both learning Japanese, like the same stuff, same sense of humour, blah blah blah.
Problem is she is gay, well at least bi and currently more focused on girls than boys.
Recently she has been having problems with a girl and she has turned to me for help, I have been very supportive and offered genuine advice which I think will help, although I do occasionally "jokingly" tell her she should just go straight.
Big complication is I have ended up in a situation where we are going to be moving in together... I made this decision before I started "falling" for her but now it has started to look a bit complicated. I guess there are some "signs" that she might like me too, but that is probably just wishful thinking...
I definitely want to move in with her but I guess it could get really complicated if she starts bringing girls home or whatever... HALP!
wtf is wrong with you, there's no need for halp, you hit the jackpot
threesome ftw
i agree
OP here: Um, not really so into that kind of stuff... It sounds weird but I am after a meaningful relationship, not super hot sex... Sorry if that makes me a fag or whatever, but that is just the way I roll...
Forget them. They're just being stupid.
I guess you should do what you should do: Woo her? If she does start bringing girls home, just try not to let it show. You need to be patient with that.
I really don't think you will be able to woo her if you are living with her. When you live with somebody you see them a hell of a lot everyday and you see each others flaws/annoying habits (and also the good things) so the spark just fizzles out. That was my experience of moving in with a girl I used to fancy, completely killed any desire for her (not just sexual desire, relationship desires)
don't worry 'bout da "falling for her" situation and actually figure out whether her bringing in girl dates will be an issue 4 u or not. i feel u'll only b a third-wheel everytime she does somethin' like dat.
Take a one level dip into Cleric. They get at least three turn attempts a day.
Seriously though, give up. If she's gay, she's gay, and she isn't going to go straight for you.
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Fuck, learn to spell.
Either get a vaginaplasty or give up.
If she's bi then you still have a chance. 5 has a pretty good idea.
OP, I may be able to be of some help here. I'm technically bi but for years I only was interested in girls...and now I've met a wonderful boy, whom I'm really infatuated with.
First off, you should probably stop telling her to go "straight" - a lot of bi girls would find this insulting, even if she knows you're just joking. Being bi has enough stigma attached to it from the gay community, especially bisexual females, where they're not taken seriously because the stereotype is of straight girls just saying that they're bi for attention (which, we all know, happens a lot). This doesn't mean that you should stop joking/flirting with her, however, but you should joke/flirt with her as yourself, and not seem like you're trying to "convert" her to men in general.
That said, if you want to pursue her, you should pursue her like you would a straight girl. Be respectful of her boundaries, be romantic. One of the reasons why female/female relationships are fulfilling are because of the emotional connection. Test out the waters a bit and show you're interested in her as a person, and that you yourself are a genuinely good guy, who's not just out for sex.
The times where I've considered a guy, despite preferring females physically and emotionally, it's been because I truly believed that the guy was special, or that we had a special connection.
However, if she's just not attracted to you, then you're shit out of luck, mate.
Rape her! lol
Maybe grow up a bit and realise that friendship may be what she is looking for in you, and thats a compliment because friendships are often better than romantic relationships.
If you start hitting on her or expect a relationship from her, you are just going to be a disappointment for a friend.
and wtf "turn a gay girl"? are you really ready for relationships in general? you sound like a child.