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1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-24 07:43 ID:vpRmyZCz

theres this girl i met 2 weeks ago from my friend, apparently she knew about me before i even met her, we get along really well and just in the first week, we've like slept in the same blanket cos had a few friends over and we just slept on the couch, but she slept next to me. we see each other alot and i really like her now, she seems to look at me alot and smiles as well, even when she realize that i know shes looking at me, i have to admit we're pretty close when we only known each other for 2 weeks, i dont want to put to much hope due to some experience i had but i kinda get the feeling that she likes me or maybe just a bit, what should i do?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-24 09:21 ID:O98OEemy

just continue, and maybe tell her some time later, maybe after a month.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-24 09:44 ID:LG3lA2Tx

She likes you. Ask her out before its too late, because otherwise she may get bored waiting for you to make a move. Don't do anything silly like confess you love her - just ask her out on a casual one-to-one date.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-24 11:04 ID:Heaven

>>3
This.

>>2
Not this.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-24 14:31 ID:unqlNK4y

op here
should i take it slowly or what? cos in my previous experience i rushed things and it didnt work out, but then i dont wanna slow down and get her bored cos shes seems to be interested at the moment. she talks more when we meet face to face but she doesnt talk as much on msn, plus we work at the same coffee shop and shes the one who normaly ask me if i wanna go get dinner after work or something. she always go on how nice i am and how i'm such a gentlemen. but she seems to be more close to my friend seeing as they do go to the same school and they're both in the same course.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-24 18:26 ID:LG3lA2Tx

Just because she goes to the same school as your friend doesn't mean that she likes him more. From what you're saying, she really does like you - especially as she's the one asking you to get dinner after work. When you go to get dinner after work is it normally just the two of you or part of a group? If its as a group, how about suggesting just the two of you go to get food elsewhere.

The trick is to not go too fast and not too slow. Too fast would be acting all "loved up"; calling her all the time, telling her how much you care about her etc and that will scare her off. Too slow is not making any kind of move, not trying to escalate things from a blooming friendship into a blooming relationship. If you wait too long your chance is blown and you are just seen as a guy friend. You have to find a balance between the two. The best thing to do is to be slighty ambiguous about your interest in her. Ask her out on semi-dates (so one-on-one meetings, but nothing as formal as going to a restaurant etc) and show interest, try to hold her hand as you are walking about, be flirty with her, but don't give it all the "you're the most amazing person ever" type thing.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-24 18:59 ID:3pQOstie

>>5

You know, sometimes guys are the ones who are hard to read. I was on a date with a girl and she was hinting and everything... We were sitting on a park-bench.. She would get closer and closer and I would just move away unintentionally. Then we went to a different place and I kissed her out of the blue. Finally, after it, she said: I thought you didn't even like me.

Moral of the story is, don't let her be the only one that's hinting. Flirt as well, but do it with taste. And, NO, I wouldn't suggest kissing her out of the blue :) This girl has clearly shown me that she wanted me to kiss her. But you definitely need a one-to-one setting if you want something to happen between you two.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-25 16:49 ID:MJ14m67N

>>6 when we go dinner its just the two of us, i always walk her home. i think i'll try ask her out for dinner or something cos its always her asking me to go out even if its in group or just two of us. but its gonna be hard for me to try hold her hand while walking her home or something, should i just slowly grab her hand and see her reactions? i kinda held her hand today when me, her and a friend were wrestling on my sofa lol, she didnt seem to hesitate and held for 4 minutes. i think i better start acting before its too late

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-26 02:03 ID:34s8yYeh

>>8

lol, are you waiting for her to grab and kiss you?? Be a man! ACT!

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-04-26 21:03 ID:Heaven

rape her

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