So... Seems as though I have a dillema (14)

1 Name: Anonymous : 2008-05-13 01:51 ID:JDV2zz5W

Alright 4-ch, sit back, buckle up, man the harpoons and listen to my story.
So, before we begin I should explain that this whole thing got its beginnings out of that whole anon vs scientology mess.
Basically what happened was a month or so back, I began to talk to a woman who was going to the protests as well.
The both of us began talking when I walked away from the heavy bits of it, shut a bullbaiter up and sat down as things got too"Serious buisness" for my likings.
I admit right out I went to these things originally because I wanted to have a little fun (which, to a basement dwelling, basement working, person such as myself they are)
After making a comment about how the people were taking this just a little too serious, this redhead (Who I will refer to as kae for now (Simply because a fair few things about her remind me of kaede from shuffle!) Sat down next to me and commented that "This was getting annoying" .

A conversation was struck up.
After the end of the protests I wandered on back home and crashed at the computer, Turning on the usual IRC channel, I found the same girl was in there, Upon noticing me (We identified each other at the protests via our IRC names) We bgean to talk.

Immediatly, I began taking a liking to her, Every evening after I got off work, I would essentially crash and strike up conversation with her.

From there I learned a fair few things about her and came to respect her more.

However, this last weekend (Another protest, more fun, less serious buisness and even less people due to weather. Personal view: chanology is dieing and I'm watching it first hand and lulzing...) The two of us hung out together the night before, and were hanging out with a few other basement dwellers. She admitted though that she liked me.
As in straight up would date me like me.

Heres the problem though.
She is seeing someone right now.

Frankly, I dont like talking about my personal life and all that nor do I talk about chanology since its the laughing stock of the internet, nor am I gonna be bothered defending the cause. So that should be left elsewhere.

The thing is though, that she sees me as some great person simply because I have values and do things other people wouldnt do (I'm in the army for the record).

She sees me as this great person, whereas upon really learning more about her, I ask myself "How can I compare to this? she works as a lobbyist and I have to admit, she gets quite a bit so she can afford some serious clothes and such (115 bucks for a shirt!)

She has pointed out that she doesnt want to see me wander off and see someone else simply because she has a boyfriend. But I dont want to cause her to cheat on him simply by being me.

What the hell do I do?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-13 01:56 ID:tzw/32ZV

tell her to break up with her boyfriend... she can't stay with her boyfriend and expect you to stay single so she can cheat on her boyfriend with you!!! that's a very selfish act

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-13 02:00 ID:289GHxDV

Check the "Bestfriend love" thread, the guy with the cock in your girlfriend comment is wise beyond years

4 Name: Anonymous : 2008-05-13 02:00 ID:JDV2zz5W

>>2 The question here is, How would I approach something like that? What right do I have as a person to ask her to break up with someone she obviously likes a lot.

If I could figure something out like that I wouldnt have a problem...
But I can tell she really does like him.

I...I dunno.

5 Name: soccerfuu9 : 2008-05-13 02:29 ID:RV1BC7As

honestly, i couldn't understand much about >>1's dilemma due to his inconsistency for his comprehension.

Anyways, i can say that if you know that she's in a relationship, but you don't feel it is right to force her out of it...then you're out of luck. I'm not trying to say that she's not the one, but she has to be the person to break up with her man first before you have a chance.

And for all you fuckers who think i'm wrong, let's see if angry boyfriend doesn't decide to come up with a shotgun or a knife at >>1's house or anyone else who ignores this advice.

6 Name: Anonymous : 2008-05-13 02:36 ID:JDV2zz5W

>>5
I understand what you are getting at.
My inconsistancy is mostly cause I'm not too sure how I should word the situation without going too much into detail or getting offtrack with minor things.

I believe that it would be best for me to back away and just let her be happy with the boyfriend she has.
She doesnt seem to complain about him so much so I assume they have a happy relationship.
I just feel troubled because she is the first girl in some time to actually admit to liking me as more than just a friend.
To top the matter, I have a thing about interfering with other peoples relationships, thinking my own time has come and gone with the epic failure from when I went into the army.

On a humorous note, It would be funny seeing the guy get past the gate security explaining why he has a shotgun strapped to his motorcycle. Not expresing views one way or the other. But the thought amuses me.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-13 02:54 ID:ufmsjJ1q

They have basement dwelling basement workers in the army? Huh?

8 Name: soccerfuu9 : 2008-05-13 02:58 ID:RV1BC7As

>>6 haha...we have the same situation...we tend to get into people's personal relationship issues. Don't worry though...at least you think of her as a friend...

...right?

9 Name: Anonymous : 2008-05-13 03:43 ID:yoz3zcYU

>>7 They call us "Military Intel"

>>8 I do think of her as a friend. However, I wont deny the fact that I do in fact like her.

However, I am able to keep my emotions in check enough to apply logic to the situation.

So yes. I do think of her as a friend but if I had the chance I would go for more than just friends.

I dunno I guess the final question really is,
should I give up on her or keep close enough and hope that something good will happen?

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-13 03:52 ID:2ENc4JD0

The simple answer?

You don't have a chance unless she breaks up with her boyfriend.

The answer you wanna hear?

GO FOR IT, DUDE!!!

11 Name: Anonymous : 2008-05-13 04:02 ID:yoz3zcYU

>>10
I frankly prefer the first one.
I'm no romatic hopefull. I pretty much believe I stand chance of getting with her.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-14 01:19 ID:FTCsrfkR

Sit her down, tell her you're all for being with her, but that you'll only get with her if she breaks up with her boyfriend. Tell her that if she'd rather stay with her boyfriend, that's okay, you're happy to remain friends.

One outcome, you'll have a girlfriend. The other, things will just stay the same. It's relatively simple.

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-14 03:17 ID:bPYI4sbf

i would've written helpful comments if you weren't an annoying newfag who actually went to the CO$ protest

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-14 15:24 ID:8dq+h3X6

wow, this thred is made of pure fail
the answer to this is plain and simple. leave the relationship alone. A guy does not go in and mess up a girl and another guys relationship. any guy that goes and does tht is a complete jack ass. if some guy on the internet tried to get between me and my girl, i would go find him and beat the shit out of him. wouldnt need a shotgun.

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