E-Love and Leaping (6)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-23 04:25 ID:mMvaIZy+

For the past 2-3 months I’ve been smitten with this girl I met online. We’re both quite young (17) and would modestly say that we’re furious dorks. She really isn’t anything normal that’s for sure, her social life revolves encompasses meandering awkwardly around friends trying to keep up the normal girl visage.

Generally we ache and pain anything from the commonness and general platitude of day to day life to the games we’ve played. I should’ve mentioned that we both play WoW (flame away!) and the two of us are pretty established in the game.

We’ve webcammed together, done the whole talk-all-night-and-feel-romantic stuff, SMSd each other and what not. I feel that we share a very mutual if not a stronger relationship.

In two weeks we’ve both got a week off due to the lack of mid year exams and I’ve planned on coming over to see her. I’m no the shyest of persons nor the ugliest and probably not the most moronic – I think I’ve done well for myself despite the lack of friends and connections. I’ve really never had any female friends and completely oblivious on how to connect with one yet alone go about my day with one that I’ve adored for such a long period.

Any advice on how I should go about talking to her (hopefully not her friends though :< ), getting drunk with her and maybe even advancing on her?

Thonks. ^_____^

2 Name: CinemaGirl : 2008-05-23 11:25 ID:zxNW8VBm

Well, if you guys connect each other so well via sms and IM, it shouldn't be hard to keep the same connection in real life. Jokes are good icebreakers. And the fact that you both have WoW in common, it'll be easy to have stuff to talk about you both like. Obviously the conversation will need to change to a different topic, like her "friends" and family and hobbies, which probably you already know of...

If she wants to meet you live, that's a good sign that she wants something real with you, and you should go ahead, but slowly. Don't just hit on her directly, that'll probably scare her a bit. Just go tenderly and saying sweet stuff about her and all, cuddling a bit, watch her reactions and if that's going well, go for it.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-23 14:45 ID:8xaJUJdq

>getting drunk with her and maybe even advancing on her?

I hope you don't mean that in sequential order. Drunken come-ons are the worst. And then you never know if it's something real or just the alcohol.

Just be yourself. React naturally. If you're already established that you like each other, stuff like holding hands is appropriate. Take it slow and watch her reactions.

Umm...I'd stay away from cuddling, too, unless it seems she'd be into it.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-23 19:06 ID:3wZjXsnY

>>3
Seconded. I really, really hope you do not intend to get drunk as an "excuse" to hit on her. There really is nothing creepier than someone taking drugs or drinking and treating you in an entirely different, more intimate way, especially if he or she does not think of you regularly in that manner. Do you drink normally or is this something you're trying to do to better fit some kind of normal image?

>Just go tenderly and saying sweet stuff about her and all, cuddling a bit, watch her reactions and if that's going well, go for it.

I disagree. Start out treating her as a friend/comrade first. I'm assuming you don't have much time to hang out together but, again, since you haven't met her in person before, it's best to see if you get along as friends before you start hitting on her hardcore.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-23 19:18 ID:toH7wk9K

Talk to her like you do normally. Don't get her drunk, and don't do anything hasty. If you're looking for just sex, then stop now.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-24 09:48 ID:6OynpSiR

OP here,

Sex isn’t the ultimate goal I’m after but settling down in the ‘friend zone’ isn’t what I’m after either. To me, she’s the kind of girl I’d feel more confident and generally happier around and that’s just too much to risk giving up. Long distance relationships seem and probably are weak but I really want this to work.

I guess my perception of modern day love has just been warped by all the stories I’ve overheard from the mouth-breathing public.

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