how to make a lasting impression? (11)

1 Name: Flounder : 2008-05-27 19:16 ID:bm8Fiv3b

so, i'm a graduating senior and I am absolutely head over heels for my teacher. he's a younger guy in terms of most teachers (28) and i'm one of the oldest seniors (few months shy of 19, i started kindergarten a year late.) so age isn't THAT big of an issue. I am a very shy person especially around guys, because I never really had any guy friends growing up. But lately I've been putting in a lot of effort to show my true colours around..let's call him Elskling. I smile a lot, and sometimes I'll even crack a joke or two. He seems to be opening up to me more as well, but I'm pretty sure he's still completely oblivious to the fact that I like him. He talks to me more than he used to. Even though I don't attend school as a student anymore, I still drop by, and he always smiles and says "Hey!" brightly when I walk in. However, our 'relationship' is still strictly limited to school. I want to move away from this, but it's going to take some time, because he tends to shut his true self off from most people, escpecially his students.

The end of the school year is coming, and once it does, i'll have no way of seeing him anymore. I have his phone number, but i got it by chance, and i'm very bad a talking on the phone. Even worse than i am at talking in real life. So it isn't of much use to me. I have been thinking of ways to ask him out on a 'date' without it sounding like a date, more like just a time to hang out. This is extremely difficult for me, however this is not what i need advice on.

What i need advice on is how to make a lasting impression. if i don't succeed in asking him on a 'date', then i at least want to do something that will make him think about me over the summer. So guys, if a younger girl wanted to make an impression on you, what would be the best thing for her to do?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-05-27 19:56 ID:r1WBC4JM

i wouldn't be so much interested in 19 year olds when i'm 28... maybe for one night stands if she has a good body, but there's no way in hell i'm pursuing a long term relationship with her

3 Name: 43 : 2008-05-27 21:26 ID:RfOlsRwn

>>2

seconded. I might develop some interest if she seems down to earth enought but I just cannot a 19 year old being that.

Sorry if this discourages you.

In any case you better move quickly, otherwise you'll regret later.

4 Name: Flounder : 2008-05-27 22:05 ID:bm8Fiv3b

It doesn't discourage me at all. I'd be lying if i said it didn't worry me a little, but i won't give up because of it.

I'm not entirely happy to be so young myself. I've never felt at home with other people my age generally, they're mostly superficial and selfish. I've always felt more comfortable around 20 somethings. despite this, however, Elskling is the first man over the age of 20 that i've had feelings this strongly for.

5 Name: Flounder : 2008-05-27 22:38 ID:bm8Fiv3b

Oh one more thing, i don't know how much of a difference this makes, but I've known him for almost 4 years.

6 Name: 43 : 2008-05-28 09:12 ID:n1Jq/r14

>>5

Well, then at this stage most certainly know whether you're mature enough for him.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-04 05:11 ID:qNcU3S63

OP, start college, attend for awhile, and then get a job/part-time job/volunteer at the school for a bit. Run into him. When you are leaving for your next job, ask if he'd go out to see a movie with you or something.

By being out of HS and into school (or a job, in general) it separates you from being his old student. In going to the school again, you open up a justifiable reason for your interest in him.

It won't be as easy as if he were 25, but it's still a shot you can take.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-04 16:42 ID:teAEO45J

>>6 I disagree. Known for four years means since OP was 15, which is a little girl in adult terms.

OP, you'd have more of a chance if you were in college. You're straight out of high school, and if he's known you as a student for those four years, then you're still a student to him. I mean, you can go for it, but be prepared for "that's really sweet but..." type rejection.

>>7 probably has the best method.

9 Name: lol : 2008-06-04 20:13 ID:w88rSZ+3

if its a dude, and your hot....just start kissing him. then have sex. yeah....he'll remember you then.

10 Name: Flounder : 2008-06-07 02:26 ID:XMa52nMI

>>7 this was pretty close the plan of action i was planning on taking. I have already established a position as a volunteer at the school for certain organized events.

>>8 yeah. i figured if i said anything straightforwardly about it, i'd get rejected at this stage. i just wanted help in thinking of a way to further a possible friendship over the summer so that i wouldn't completely loose the 'brownie points' i've been building up.

11 Name: Flounder : 2008-06-07 02:34 ID:XMa52nMI

but speaking of brownie points, i must be doing something right, because when i went to visit yesterday, as i was saying goodbye he actually gave me a hug. this may not seem like a big deal, but he is the type of person who virtually never initiates physical contact of any kind with anyone. I've seen one of his friends come to see him and even she had to be the one to initiate the goodbye hug. And the 2 other times i've seen people ask him for a hug, it's always and akward back-pat type hug. so needless to say, i was really taken aback when he actually moved in to hug me.

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