urgh (6)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-08 04:50 ID:anGY5oLW

One of my best mates hooked in with a girl i used to like last night in front of me. Of course, he didnt know i used to like her and i thought i was over her so everything should be ok. But its bothered me more than i thought it would. Im not angry at him or anything but its put a huge hole in my ego and drive to do anything.

the thing that shits me with this is that why would she choose him of all people? i know i sound like a selfish jealous asshole for saying this about a really good friend but hes the type of guy who will just use her. he lives for the next drink and the next girl he finds to put his cock in. its blatantly obvious too even around females. yet they are attracted to him.

ive heard the whole alpha male vs nice guy shit before and i believe it because its unfortunately true. however its so fucking illogical in so many ways. why would a girl want someone who willingly treats them like shit so they can come running to me or other decent guys to cry on. im fucking sick of it. they complain and whinge about their useless fucking boyfriends and say that they want to leave them but never go ahead and do it. its fuckign bullshit. then you get the ones who ask you why you dont have a girlfriend and you dont have an answer. it makes you feel so fucking useless and worthless.

all my relationships in the past have turned to shit and half of them werent even that serious anyway. ive been single for 2 years now and its gotten to the point where im not willingly single anymore. now its at that point in my life where everyone is starting to pair off and im that other guy who comes to dinner without a date. i now how to meet people, but the problem is that the only people i meet arent single. it shits me to tears. im sick of going out to pubs/clubs too, in my experiences the only women single at them my age are sluts which im not into.

it seems im doomed to a life of solitude

/rant

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-08 04:54 ID:x7eilNv9

Well, there's a thing you can do: alter your comportment to match what "catches" the girl, then use all the advantages you have to keep her and make her happy.

In short, find a compromise.

3 Name: Who knows... : 2008-06-08 21:22 ID:TGqHJTeZ

I understand how you feel. Most you see can be used in general, but there are always the exceptions. You should search more eagerly (I know you must've been doing this already), but maybe you only like girls who like shitty boys. MaYbe, the girls who arent like that, never caught your attention. You should consider that, because that special girl you mentioned are the type of girls who can catch most of guy's attention. girls who are more into compromises arent like that.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-08 22:30 ID:3mzmju7u

>>1

Girls do this because they feel inferior, unworthy, it's too good to be true, they're afraid that this time, it will be them who fucks shit up and they can't stand the thought of it.

They want guys who treat them like shit because once they get around to having something better they get terrified. They feel secure with shit, they can trust themselves in a known environment, they know what they have, they know where they are and how they'll act. They don't want to be the appearant issue in the relationship, they'd rather be the victims than victimize someone else. They don't want to come crying to you because they hurt your feelings, they want to come crying to you because someone else hurt their feelings.

This is the sad truth about the matter. What it all comes down to is that, they just don't feel comfortable with seeing themselves with you, and maybe they don't even know why. But these are the reasons.

trust me

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-09 01:21 ID:kJgcR319

I'm a girl and honestly say I would never go for an asshole like that, there are many girls who don't, my guess is you are going for the wrong type of girl yourself and/or looking in the wrong places.

My advice is to cut those bitches off, they probably think you are some kind of fall back for when they want to actually settle down.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-09 15:01 ID:anGY5oLW

>>5 thats what they all say, and then they do

This thread has been closed. You cannot post in this thread any longer.