How do I get a girlfriend? (19)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-18 20:07 ID:h7wZsqnM

yeah.... I'm nightmarishly lonely.

2 Name: Dr. Gonzo : 2008-06-18 21:21 ID:xmyqyI/z

I think the trick is to not pursue one, but to live your life for yourself and recognize when one shows interest. There's always chloroform.

3 Name: Thunder!RQhIqRxs5I!!QiI33I8Q : 2008-06-19 00:41 ID:VGB544V2

>>2 Listen to this man.

4 Name: Lonely-chan : 2008-06-19 01:19 ID:EguuwBlz

Too true, like someone said earlier, when you stop looking for love it starts looking for you. Good luck Secret Admirer.

5 Name: GOD : 2008-06-19 01:55 ID:+reCbABi

>>2 he's wrong. Go on the streets and hunt the pussy (bars,clubs,chats,adultfinder,etc..)whatever, be a whore and procreate my son!

>>4 That's why his name is "Lonely"

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-19 05:00 ID:X0jUSlpd

One thing you should avoid doing is disguising the date as something else or inviting her on a group outing.

Girls hate cowards.

7 Name: OP : 2008-06-19 13:48 ID:h7wZsqnM

>>2
I've been doing that for years and no one has shown interest. Shit sux.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-20 05:24 ID:N3oowQpp

No, >>2 is right. But be confident! Stand up straight and keep your gaze straight when you walk. I always meet someone when I least expect it, going through my normal routines. But the catch is, when an oppornity arises, its easy to miss so be smart.

If you really have been doing that for years, you wouldn't be complaining about it on 4ch. To really do this is live your life, work on your own goals and don't conclude that having a girlfriend is going to solve all you're problems. Then... she will come!

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-06-20 07:25 ID:OXtui2pg

Well, being attractive and confident, with a good personality, that never hurts.

10 Name: Obina : 2008-06-27 02:43 ID:ig574F7i

>>2 and >>9 is right. Don't forget that people with the same interest(s) helps. Don't entirely give yourself up to her! BE your own individual self but give the breathing room to flex a little bit financially and timewise-ally.

11 Name: lil_snow.angel : 2008-07-05 11:08 ID:KV4FEkyY

>>4 i totally agree with him/her.

i'm a gurl, first of all. i reckon most sensibly gurls would look for an honest n sincere type of guy- not those flirtatious try-hards. cos if u try too hard, gurls might end up being put off?
it's just my presumption. try to look cool n stay confident, but dun get too cocky n hav a big ego around gurls n hopefully some1 might fall for u.

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-05 13:13 ID:C9LUIJ+t

just a girl you like out
if she says no
ask someone else

13 Name: hopeless : 2008-07-19 16:34 ID:pcJRYr13

how about those people who don't have confidence? what can you advice for them?

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-19 16:43 ID:Heaven

>>13
Start working on upgrading your confidence. You know, confidence and self-esteem are things you build from within.

Some leads: fix yourself moderate goals; work towards them; when you hit them, cheer yourself up - you've done it! Find some pride in that. Then fix yourself a goal slightly more difficult, and start again.

Never talk yourself down. Use positive thinking. Find strenght in your weaknesses.

Realize that if you have nothing, you have nothing to lose. Face your fears to lose them or at least learn to control them so they don't control you.

15 Name: hopeless : 2008-07-19 16:50 ID:pcJRYr13

>>14 thanks.. i'll keep that in my mind.. ^_^

16 Name: Brandon_Heat : 2008-07-23 03:18 ID:/KEvTMU7

For me it's been awhile (2 years) since i have been serious with a girl T_T. But im done waiting so im asking all of you guys and girls.

How do you find the girl that was meant to be with you ?

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-23 03:21 ID:fYozdbjC

Well....

The sad reality is that all the good women are taken.

You are left with skanks.

I'm sorry but women these days are failing too much to be interested in them.

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-23 16:34 ID:Heaven

>>17
So what if they are "taken"? Just because you see a woman with some guy doesn't mean she's happy with him; She might just be too scared to leave him and stay alone. Persuade her, and you'll be able to tell whether she wants you more than him or not.

Generally, fear nothing. As for confidence, alcohol is a quick solution. Start drinking some wine (important - not beer because you'll want to piss, not something stronger because you'll get wasted) until you start feeling just a bit dizzy.
Test how OKAY you are, for example try jumping around, standing on one feet, etc. Get something for the mouth smell, some gum. Then you're ready. Go out, find that girl you like, do something so she notices you and start talking to her.

For example, you see a woman alone in a bar, table, whatever.
Start looking at her until she looks at you. Don't look like you're starving or a creep, rather like you're "checking" or just plainly having some interest in her. It's important to not look somewhere else when she looks at you, nor look at her ass/tits etc. Only the face. When she (or you) stops looking, give it some time, like 2-10 minutes. In that time, (or before) think of something to say. If you get a conversation going, you have succeeded.

What you wear and what you look like is very important. Don't look like a fucking idiot. Don't have a stupid haircut or be ridiculously white or too tanned. If you're overly fat, well, first you have to lose weight. If sunglasses don't look good on you, don't wear them. Don't wear a cap.

You can't expect to get women without being an interested person.

19 Name: Brandon_Heat : 2008-07-25 00:44 ID:/KEvTMU7

>>17

Okay i'm supposed to go to a nice club tomorrow with some friends so i'll try to do what you said but do you have any others things that could help me. (also asking everyone)

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