Okay my situation is a bit different then the typical 4-ch love woe. When I like someone, I know how to tell her I like her (I just tell her, "I like you.") and how to ask her out. ("Want to hang out?"
My problem is how to quickly move when unexpected opportunity arises. Here are three cases of things that have happened to me in the past:
Situation 1: I was waiting on the bus stop, listening to my cd player and a car with two girls pass by. For some reason I smile and a few minutes later, they pull up in the parking lot asking if I want a ride. For some reason I say...no thanks!! And then I kicked myself afterward.
Situation 2: Cute girl at the local Best Buy always smiled at me whenever I came in. One day she started asking questions about my life, school, etc. A PERFECT chance to ask her out! I didn't.
Situation 3: Two days ago I was done studying at the local starbucks on my laptop (okay, fooling around on then net...) and got up to go when this HOT girl was at the table with her computer smiling at me. I froze up and kept going....
I mean, I know I'm a shy guy, but when I have to I can make the first move. But when the girl is the one to start it, I'm caught off guard with no control and retreat!
How the frick do I do I solve this problem?! I'm 21 dammit! Since I'm single, I would love to start going into the casual dating scene....ya know where I don't like her at all with no attachments...just dating for the sake of it. But I have to learn to beat this!
So any help guys?
Well, I think the best you can do is put yourself in situation (ie go to your "casual dating scene") and get used to it. Also, be more confident (without becoming full of yourself) in the fact that you are attractive and that, obviously, women you meet have a good chance to be attracted to you. Once you have assimilated that fact, you're less likely to panic when a girl comes up to you.
But really, I'm taking a shot in the dark there.
LOL, i have the same problem and i decided to do someting about it. Approaching her is enough, that will give a sign that you are interested and ready to work for it. Ask her her name, or some other cheezy lines (it does work). Then suggest hooking up (name changing,phone numbers) and voila. Call her the next day and see how things turn out.
I do have to point that it never really hit off after a few dates, but i guess you have keep at it until it clicks...Sigh, so tiresome.
goodluck!
haha, I kind of have the same problem.
No problem making it known to a girl, but when a girl is hitting on me, I get caught off guard
I wish any of those sits happened to me... No tears for the otaku. *sigh
Keep in mind that whenever this situation occurs, dont just blurt out. If you have to, get it in your mind to stay frozen on the spot for a second, and give yourself time to think coherently
Yes, you are definitley right! Here's another situation that happened last fall semester. I actually DID take the rise to the opportunity but then overstepped myself.
I was sitting lunch at the lunch area when suddenly this really cute Korean foriegn student initiated a coversation from across the table. I was thinking "Yesssss"
So eventually she had to get to class and I let her know I enjoyed talking to her. And so I asked if she'd like eat lunch together at the same place again sometime. She said sure and told me when she eats there. THEN I guess I got too excited at that small success and without meaning to changed my tone to normal to pick-up voice and asked for her number. She said no, sorry and hurried off.
Idiot! _|¯¯|O