Ending Year-long Live-in Relationship (20)

18 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-07-23 06:51 ID:NiJbsPZh

Told my ex that I was going to move out, and why. The ensuing conversation was truly enlightening, to say the least.

The reason she was with me was because she was so excited to have found someone who actually loved her; it was only later that she realized what a serious relationship entailed (I being her first boyfriend), and essentially she didn't know how to deal with the situation. She didn't love me, but she wanted to.

I wanted her to love me too. When she broke up with me, I figured that I had done something horribly wrong, or that I was flawed, or whatever -- not that she was simply coming out of confusion, which I couldn't see in my love blindness.

I suppose we've both learned something very important: I, that appearances can be deceiving; and she, that she can be loved.

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