Why is my VC "Heff"? Ah well.

I'm >>26 's boyfriend, she pointed the thread out to me. Anyway, here's some questions to ask yourself. I know you want to think this is "serious". I've wanted to think that of every relationship I've ever had, save one very miserable one. That this is the first one for both you and her makes the possibility that you're just infatuated or obsessed with someone/thing you "can't have" a dangerous one.

Since you wanted legal advice - first of all. You. Can't. Fuck. Her.
Not a little. Not even getting into dangerous territory. Remember, if her mom goes to the cops - and she probably will - you need an alibi for every time you've been with her. Your conduct and character with her need to be above reproach, and preferably witnessed by friends or family.

Second. You're serious about her? Start learning Spanish. Try to meet her mom halfway. Don't be evasive. Don't lie. Since you've already met her, a lot of deception is GOING to backfire - she can't speak English, perhaps, but she's not stupid.

Do you have a good quality - one that would make you a good husband? Display it. If you can cook, make food. If you can sew, give the girl a dress or her mom something for around the house. Can you write? Clean? Offer her something.

If she wants you out of her daughter's life, and you can't say what you need to, have her daughterlet her know you're backing off. Then do it.
I don't mean running away. I mean, stepping back, sending letters or the odd phone call. Enough to let her mom know you are very serious. Court her mother - you're going to have to deal with this woman one way or another for a very long time. Learning some Spanish to help convey your feelings to her mom is going to go a LONG fucking way to help you make your case - even if you can't say it perfectly, making the effort speaks volumes about your character.

Hell, ask her mom - or, if she has a brother, him - along on a date.

Also, this sentence concerns me, very very deeply.

>>with the proper influences and caring, she will become even better and more intelligent as time goes on.

You obviously believe her mother - am I right in guessing that this is a single-parent household? - is incapable of providing either of these. Do you want to be her father or her lover? You can't be both. A mentor tries to raise a friend to be the kind of person they want as a friend. A lover and a friend CAN'T dominate a relationship like that - it leads to very destructive issues later in life.