A problem with my gf and this other girl... (11)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-11 06:50 ID:u7P3AfMz

So tomorrow is my 1 month anniverssary with my gf.

...But there's a problem and I need yourr help iichan.

I like my gf ALOT (I really mean that) and things have been goin great between us...but there's this girl who's been talking to me lately on the intarwebz.

Supposedly she's a friend of one of my friends who's apparently moving to my area.

Now this girl...looks good. I mean she's an aspiring model and lately she's been hitting on me saying how we should go out when she comes to my area. I've repeated stated many times how I have a gf and that i'm not interested and i'd rather just stay friends but she keeps pushing on to try to go out with me. Now she's trying to bribe me with sex...

I like my gf too much to ruin anything between our relationship and I want our connection to thrive for a long time. Iono how to deal with this other...rather attractive girl without being mean cause i'm a nice guy. :[

Help Please?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-11 09:04 ID:knN4dZi6

State it clearly: "Don't make me be a bad guy"

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-11 15:19 ID:Heaven

Cut off contact. Temptation could grow too great and the results would be disatrous.

4 Name: bingo : 2008-08-11 16:10 ID:pZJzvoGu

she clearly can't take "no" as an answer. You must be mean, and if that doesn't work you must cut off contact. That is unless you want to take her up on her offer.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-11 21:52 ID:Heaven

Nice to see a guy with morals he can stick to. Your girl is lucky.

Let the new girl down easy. The thing is with women who are this forward and persistent about stuff like this, despite how much she would be ruining for you, is that they're quick to turn ugly. If you tell her "No" in a way that isn't perfect, she won't have any problems with causing trouble for you by telling your girlfriend that things have happened. I don't want to scare you, >>1, and this is the worst case scenario, but it's a common one.

Exactly what have you told her and what has she responded with? Maybe there's something we can work with.

6 Name: A nice guy : 2008-08-12 01:55 ID:BAidzo+C

I know how you feel. My girlfriend lives 500-some miles away, and even though theres distance there I love her to death, and There is another girl thats hinting me, and she lives near me. All I can say is if you really like(or love) you girlfriend, you might have to be the bad guy and be a little mean to get the other girl to leave you alone, and if that don't work, you might have to cut connection. If not, it could completely screw up your relationship with you girl

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-13 08:09 ID:O6JsU+IB

>>1
ONE MONTH IS NOT AN "ANNIVERSARY." THE ROOT OF "ANNIVERSARY" IS "ANNUS." AS IN YEAR, ASSHOLE.

God I hate that.

As for your supposed "problem," it isn't a problem, it's an opportunity you idiot.

You're young. This is the time to make "mistakes." Awesome, awesome mistakes. Restraint is for marriage, and if you're bright, you'll never get married. Studies have in fact shown that higher education leads to lower marriage and birth rates.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-27 16:32 ID:PWCGmTrz

ANNUS!

Anyways,
other girl wants you just to mess with your girlfriend. Don't let new-girl drag you along it, unless you don't mind ending up being single.

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-27 20:19 ID:Wj3KboAY

don't be a faggot cheater or leave one woman for another.
it doesn't sound like you plan to do that anyways though. so just keep telling this bitch no.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-28 12:09 ID:rPGd/eIu

the girl just wants to wreck other ppl's life because she has a crappy life herself, will you be the tool?

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-29 16:56 ID:kH5vzAlz

>>1

nice people get walked on
kind people are respected

if she cant understand that youre serious about what youre saying then play the guilt thing on her. you thought she was a good person but shes trying to ruin your relationship for a little fun. and i mean youre making excuses for her actions and you sound like youre interested in her.

if you are then cool, if youre not then thats cool too. but just know that you have to decide and not joke around with it. if thats the case, then youre not really serious about your relationship with your girlfriend and it wouldnt make any sense to worry about screwing the new girl since youre not that serious...if thats the case.

if youre serious youd just ignore her provocations and just stick to light conversation or avoid speaking to her when she tries to bring up sex. and if she doesnt understand get one of your friends to be a wing man when she comes to town and you can try and put them together to get her off of your back.

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