I just found out my girlfriend is 3 years younger than me! [help] (33)

1 Name: A nice guy : 2008-08-12 18:11 ID:/R748do9

We live in different states, and I thought she was 16... SHe looked 16... But i her friend just told me shes thirteen... And even though shes 3 years younger than me, I still love her and I don't want to hurt her... SHould I end it or just pretend I never found out... HELP!

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-12 21:25 ID:qxy8SNni

Damn! You just make me jealous of you!

3 Name: A nice guy : 2008-08-12 21:37 ID:/R748do9

Yeah that helps me...

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-12 21:46 ID:bWTIIRJ3

Did she tell you that she was 16 in the first place?
If she did, I think you should confront her about her dishonesty.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-12 22:51 ID:mW8q1vFv

i think i hear sirens, don't you?

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-12 22:59 ID:tBPqYt9I

not worth it.
i was in the same spot as you, dont go there.

7 Name: A nice guy : 2008-08-12 23:19 ID:/R748do9

I didn't ask her how old she was, everyone just said she was sixteen. I never heard her say it... But now I'm confused. Her friend that told me she was 13, and another of her friends said she was 14... I asked my girlfriend and she said she was 16.. I'm so confused (-_-')

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-13 01:42 ID:Heaven

When I was 13 and looked 13 I dated a 17 yr old who looked 27...

9 Name: Fullmetalpeaches : 2008-08-13 01:56 ID:VvWaGzC/

End it. Be fair to her

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-13 02:02 ID:Ob6p1gId

Sooooo, where exactly is the problem? 3 years is not even a big gap.

11 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-13 02:36 ID:qxy8SNni

Or...just wait until she matures then! If you are loyal enough...at least more things can happen between you two...(and yeah...many things..even bad things...take note on that!).

Good luck then!

12 Name: A nice guy : 2008-08-13 03:04 ID:/R748do9

I plan on staying with her. I know 3 years isn't a big gap... The bad thing will be when I'm 18 and shes 15. If 'anything' was to happen, I could easily get my ass thrown in prison, since shes under age...

13 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-13 06:34 ID:dTNRXVq3

She's still young and developing. In the next few years she'll mature both physically and mentally, her morales and values will (hopefully) grow stronger, and her perspective on relationships and commitments should also mature.

I don't think you should try to do anything to her. Especially with how young she is, you may be effective enough to throw off the maturity she needs to learn. If you allow her to grow healthily, and she still stays commited to you as you two grow older, she will definitely be worth the wait.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-13 08:04 ID:JiDFifUU

>>1

Because you're only ever going to find one girl. Ever. In fact, I hear speculators are driving up the price of girls as we speak. Clearly the government must intervene.

Dude, STFU and find yourself a new girl.

15 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-14 02:16 ID:/4/Nmxhj

hahaha
that happened to a friend of mine
we made sure that he knew that legally it was pedophilia
he will never hear the end of it now
haha

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-15 15:09 ID:qxy8SNni

oh...please guys don't annoy OP, instead give him some advice, good ones rather than flaming him all the way on....

17 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-15 15:37 ID:SW/A+pXr

she says she's sixteen believe her and carry on dating.

and even if she is a few years younger than you, you can still date her as long as you don't tap her.

18 Name: A nice guy : 2008-08-15 21:07 ID:/R748do9

>>16

Thank you.

>>17

Yeah. I don't want to end it. And yeah, I know if she is younger than me, I shouldn't do anything, but she keeps talking about it... and me being a guy, I'm not sure if I have enough will power to keep out of there... (-_-')

19 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-15 21:40 ID:K264TNDA

>>OP

Actually, if she says she is legal and you do her, they can't do you for pedophilia - because as far as you knew she was legal.

I am pretty sure there are multiple precedents - and it is very unusual to find 13 year olds who look like they could be 16, so I'd just feel safe and not worry about, and maybe hire a good lawyer.

20 Name: A nice guy : 2008-08-15 22:24 ID:/R748do9

>>19
Good point... I didn't even think of that. Thanks

21 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-15 23:43 ID:Heaven

If you know about it, and if it can be proved, then it's even worse telling you didn't know. You know, good faith and such things.

22 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-16 03:30 ID:Heaven

>>19 The problem being is that he knows about it, and whoever told him knows he knows about it, there is no legal defence for him. Let alone how he could live with himself, its beyond me, really.

23 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-16 05:07 ID:DO470Xo2

>>19 Actually, if she's a teenager and looks like one, it's ephebophelia, not pedophelia. Pedophelia is being sexually aroused by children, ephebophelia is being sexually aroused by teenagers. The crucial physical difference being boobies and pubic hair. Not that the law bothers to make the distinction...And, frankly, cup size=/=maturity, either >.<

24 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-16 22:43 ID:Mx7CrpjS

Same thing happened to me, I broke it off when I found out.

25 Name: A nice guy : 2008-08-17 21:30 ID:/R748do9

OP here... Well i just found out my gf is 16. Her friend that told me, was trying to split us up... And it almost worked, but in the end she failed. Were still together and its gonna stay that way. Thanks to everyone who actually gave me advice... useful advice...

26 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-18 03:12 ID:jYIjdnDX

>>25
How did you find that? Did you ask her ID?

27 Name: A nice guy : 2008-08-18 11:48 ID:/R748do9

Her friend told me, after we both talked to her about it.

28 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-18 12:59 ID:Cr3Kd44a

>>27
'...we both talked to her about it.'

So her friend told you, and both of you talked to your girlfriend regarding the age? And she still insists that she's 16?

It's a serious case of dishonesty or outright mental problem... Either way it's not good.

29 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-18 13:54 ID:jYIjdnDX

>>27
Ask her for her ID. It's the only way to be sure. "Being told" given the somewhat grave circumstances is not enough. Try to be responsible for once, eh?

30 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-18 20:36 ID:1OTt+hNr

If you are that mad about her not being within the age of concent, then just hold your boner in.

3 years is shit. I know people who are dating each other but are 10 years apart.

31 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-20 20:42 ID:yvG8unHY

yea its not a problem. if shes the same person you thought she was whats wrong?

age is just a number. im 19 and i have women who are 24-35 hitting on me.

32 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-21 14:59 ID:Heaven

>im 19 and i have women who are 24-35 hitting on me.

They get desperate as they get older.

33 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-22 14:13 ID:yvG8unHY

>>32

yea thats true lol. ive realized that. but the point was that the age difference doesnt matter.

i never said i got with any of them.

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