grand question of love (16)

1 Name: mello : 2008-08-23 03:58 ID:ygCwooKE

okay so everyone says that love is a bond between two people. but how do you know when your truly in love with a person. and when your in love how do you know that you didnt make the bigist mistake of your life by going out with that person

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-23 04:16 ID:kr4isYCM

You never really know. It just happens. That's the whole point.

And it's a blurry zone. Sometimes going out with the love of your life is the biggest mistake of your life because it tears families down, provokes wars, whatever. Sometimes not.

Okay here's my real answer: stop thinking too much. Just feel and do. There's no formula.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-23 08:25 ID:iYiyc/i0

Easy.

I mean, life is easy with them. You do not have to fight to maintain the relationship. There are difficulties in all relationships and there are always hardships. But if the relationship is basically easy, then thats a good one.

Plus they say you know if that person is for you. Well I guess, you will know when you meet that person.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-23 13:26 ID:Yx9Zw5f1

There's no such thing as love. Only eternal anger and loneliness.

5 Name: mello : 2008-08-23 15:19 ID:ygCwooKE

well this question came from the fact that i really like this girl but i fear that when i actually go out with her i wont really want to be with her anymore. but this brings up a good question.... is it best to love and take a chance or should you not love at all?

6 Name: baby don't hurt me, : 2008-08-23 16:29 ID:/h2GHSGy

> love is a bond between two people

No bond is implied. What you feel isn't determined by what the other person feels.
Best example would be a women that marries the man of her dreams only to learn to late that he's a sociopath. The sociopath never was capable of love, but was very good at faking it.

> is it best to love and take a chance or should you not love at all?

I could spout cliches, but I'm sure you already know the answer and already know what you intend to do.

7 Name: mello : 2008-08-23 16:58 ID:ygCwooKE

and to #4 love brings happiness to those who seek it.

8 Name: mello : 2008-08-23 17:08 ID:ygCwooKE

this is true. but taking that chance will you getting hurt. but in the end you must decide whether or not taking that chance was worth all the pain and hardship.

9 Name: bingo : 2008-08-24 04:22 ID:Z5dTem3g

"If you love them let them go" is a popular saying. I guess you can say it is really real love if you want them safe and happy no matter what. but you can really like someone too, and later on have it turn into love that lasts. Real love is when you want the best for the other person and you set your own desires aside. That's my opinion anyways.

10 Name: mello : 2008-08-24 06:43 ID:RiYlB+vb

wow.....

11 Name: mello : 2008-08-24 06:52 ID:RiYlB+vb

the girl i was talking about before is named jess. and i am willing to do anything to just be with her and to make her happy...

12 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-29 17:20 ID:DbKvefqW

>>1

in my opinion, theres no way to describe love or how to love someone. they say youre just gonna know but how will you just know if you dont know. isnt impossible to know what you dont know?

i think the closest we can get to knowing love is knowing happiness because when we say we love someone we just want to make that person as happy as possible. and you could measure love by how happy you and the other person are together.

its funny how some people are like or i love that person and then theyre fighting over something as simple as a toilet seat being up or forgetting to buy something from a store that was important. i think those people think theyre in love but dont know the meaning of what to love is

the only way i can judge if it was a mistake or not is how happy are you 2 together. are you able to put aside petty shit and focus on the real issues and work them out together to be more understanding of each other and accepting of the other person's quirks because we all have them.

now i agree with bingo, but sometimes if you love them and let them go they'll find someone else because they didnt love you or didnt know you loved them. they may just take the way you act as some way you treat all your girlfriends when youre together. so you may just want to clarify that point with her because she may not be aware.

13 Name: cain : 2008-08-29 18:12 ID:/Bgc0NCW

how do you say how you feel if your unsure of she feels about you. in this day in age saying i love you dosent mean much.

14 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-08-30 01:16 ID:VnGmrZFn

True love IMO is being happy putting their needs and happiness above your own. The trick is finding someone who feels the same towards you.

The only way to know if it's worth it is to experience it, so there is no way to really say it was a mistake or not.

15 Name: cain : 2008-09-13 01:17 ID:8gkLjuGa

well i asked that girl out and she said that she liked me as a friend. but i wasnt sad about...i was happy. and i dont know why. any thoughts of why this could be.

16 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-13 07:52 ID:Heaven

>>15
The sadness and anger will come, don't worry.

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