So anons, yesterday I met this guy, and I would say we hit it off pretty well as far as first encounters went. Today we met again, and that went well also! Minimum awkward pauses were a bonus.
Problem 1: I worry that I like him more than he does me. In previous relationships it was always the other way around, and I know how tiring it gets to have to keep up pretences, and obviously how it causes your feelings for the other party to break down. Although there's no particular indication of this when we're together. So why I worry anyways?
Leading into problem 2: Phones. Our telephone conversations are always significantly more stilted than face-to-face conversation, for whatever reason. And now that I think about it, extenuating circumstances always caused me to call him before he could me. Could it be that he actually doesn't want to call back, but is forced to? The first time he entered my number incorrectly so he couldn't-- but I called him accidentally, second time was because I got out of class early, and third time was because I thought he had called, although he hadn't. (Tiems to get caller ID!) Although it seemed rightéinevitable that I should contact him at the time, all three times, couldn't this be interpreted as being clingy/needy/desperate?
Problem 3: This is the first time I've actually liked somebody to this extent, and frankly, I know I'm blowing things out of proportion because it's only been TWO FUCKING DAYS, but from here it's hard not be anxious about things. And yes, to some extent I'm waiting for the karma guillotine, i.e. that the apathy I brought into past relationships will be turned in my direction this time.
So, judging from this diatribe alone, should I be checking my actions or my thoughts? Or my sanity?
tl;dr: am I too batshit insane to even be in a relationship at this point?
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*pretenses, I mean.
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I believe you're over analysing it. Different people different relationships, just give it some time and take your time to see how this bloke is like. Also, don't call more than once a day.
Some people just hate impersonal ways of communication like phones. Or internet BBSs lulz.
It's ineffective and leads to misunderstandings. Maybe he just would prefer to hold you tight rather than chat on the phone? At least that's how I often find myself feeling......................................................................
If it's the SECOND FUCKING DAY, you're going overboard.
Anyway, like 4 said. Different people, different needs, hell, I hate speaking through the phone with my girlfriend. Hell, I rarely even pick up the calls unless its needed, what I do is go straight to her and I told her the same, if she wants to say me anything at all, meet me.