Afraid to show affection in front of friends..? (9)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-20 17:44 ID:KXxjteCv

So, I have a boyfriend.

We've known each other for a few months, but only recently has the relationship turned romantic/sexual. Since we've gotten together, however, I've noticed that he acts very differently depending on whether we're alone or with friends.

When we're alone somewhere, public or not, he's extremely sweet, always holding my hand, kissing me on the cheek, cuddling with me every chance he can get, etc. I absolutely love being around him, he makes me so happy.

However, when we're out in our group of friends, he barely touches me. I'll bump into his hand constantly and he won't take it. He'll say hurtful things, then play it off as a joke. If I do something similar, he pretends to get angry at me for long periods of time.

I'll tell him, "I wish you'd be nicer to me," and only after that will he hold my hand or put his arm around me and all that. I don't feel like I should have to tell him, though...

Is this a normal thing for guys? To not want to be sweet when around friends?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-20 18:04 ID:Heaven

It's a 50/50

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-20 18:30 ID:WcZ2aKt9

Your boyfriend is insecure, that would be a normal behavior pattern for insecure blokes.

4 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-20 21:04 ID:AVz4j3gP

Aww he seems so tsun tsun. Why not ask him about it? "Does it make you feel uncomfortable?" or even, "Should I not do (this and this) while we're with your friends?" If you show him you're concerned, I think (or hope) that he'll clear things up for you.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-21 05:27 ID:0s1E4jRU

That means he's a decent person who doesn't believe in PDAs or trying to make his friends jealous.

6 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-21 08:58 ID:AlbMpGpm

>>1

It's normal for a guy who just wants to fuck with you and is already looking for the next girl, in my experience.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-09-21 09:47 ID:Heaven

I'm afraid >>6 might be right...

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2008-10-05 04:24 ID:v+64xhMr

>>6

This >>5

PDA sucks from the majority of people's view. The fact is not everyone else is in love with you two, so keep it to a minimum

I hate it when I'm talking to my friend and then next thing you know, he's making out with his bitch.

There's corners, shadows and all sorts of places you can duck off to, and handle business.

Don't be a dick about your reproductive success.

This coming from a guy who acts similar, however my anger and jokes are of flirty nature, so fun is had, or maybe not.

But, I get the same response from chicks like OP.

I would call it stage fright

9 Name: Martyr-kun : 2008-10-05 20:51 ID:YluQZgjs

Not being so affectionate in front of friends is normal for a lot of people, and it is something you will have to respect and adjust to. HOWEVER, him being hurtful is something that you shouldn't have to put up with. You need to be honest with him and let him know that even if he isn't comfortable with being affectionate in public that being hurtful is unacceptable.

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