I'd say you were weird. But, that's sort of normal.
I guess, wanting a secret relationship and all, but the kids thing is weird. Do you just not want commitment to your own children? Or do you find some kind of - thrill from deceiving the man here?

I'm sure it may seem like a nice idea to you (I personally can't see why) but when your kids do find out, or when the husband does (Trust me he will) then what? You'll have to explain yourself to your kids. How unwanted would they feel? ><;

I think if it's just a fantasy it's alright, but you should never take that into practice. I fantasize about some weird shit, but it doesn't mean I'm going to let somebody tie me up and burn me? Haha. Seriously now, I think you need some real advice, instead of all of this shit being posted against you.

You're a person it seems who likes no reponsibility, and a secretive person. You like the idea of public sex I'm betting? Or sex where you have to be secretive while you're doing it (/ house with people in, cutting it close to a time where somebody will come in etc.) and I think, you probably wouldn't try it.

Everyone has a fantasy or a fetish. Yours just involves you being an irresponsible dick. Ignore what people say, a fantasy is a fantasy, My opinion is that it shouldn't be mixed with reality.

Have fun, stay safe.