So my boyfriend and I have been going out for two years, he's a sophomore in college, and I'm a senior in high school. He goes to college 4 hours away and I see him maybe once a month. Last year was better because we actually talked on the phone and he didn't have as much homework. This year, we barely talk and he has so much homework he hasn't made an effort to see my yet. You might tell me to go visit him, but this won't work because a) I'm not allowed to drive that far, b) even if I could, I wouldn't be allowed to stay with him, c) I'm not going there with my dad (he's a thread all his own), and d) my mom works and she doesn't like traveling too often.
So him being away would be fine if I had friends to distract me... but I don't. I have a friend that like about 10 minutes away, but she's VERY concerned about homework and paying for gas. I have some other friends about half an hour away, but they sometimes annoy me and I don't really want to go all the way over there, even if I was allowed to drive half an hour away. My BEST friend lives about an hour and a half away. And again, I'm not allowed to drive that far.
But I totally love my boyfriend and could see myself spending the rest of my life with him... I think. But the distance is REALLY getting to me. So my question is this: would it be worth it to break it off before we get REALLY sick of each other and the other's seeming lack of caring about the relationship? This is mostly a rant, but any advice would be appreciated. A LOT, because I know that I don't have a lot of world experience, no matter how mature some people think I am.
Your main problem seems to be that transport takes a long time because America is big.
Kill yourself and you shall be reborn on Taiwan.
Long distance relationships fail. I had one once, lasted about 6 months, then had another, lasted about 7. Each ended the same way, people move on without you. All the promises you receive are worth nothing once he finds someone else.
It's not that either of us have found someone else. I think we're both just a bit frustrated with the distance. At least I hope he hasn't.
same situation, except me (the girl) is the one who went off to university 4 hours away.
honestly, when people first told me that long distance relationships don't work, I thought to myself "well it WILL work with him" but truth is.. the distance thing gets even worst after that.. and eventually one of you will come across someone who's really nice, makes you laugh.. and is less than a half hours drive away. part of a relationship, shallow as it may be, is wanting to have someone to hold on to, possess if you will.
then again, just because mine failed, doesn't mean yours will. Good luck and just try to make the most out of your time together when he comes back
I thought it would work too, but I'm so tired of not having to hold me when I'm down... I'm just scared of how conflicted I'll be when someone comes along that I could see myself with.
I think really thats the big thing about long distance relationships, if you're someone who's needy (or really, just someone who likes cuddle etc) then it's really not the type of relationship for you.
Desu, so far it doesn't seem like you guys are anywhere near a breakdown.. and there's really no one else at the moment that's caught your attention right? I say, stay with him. There's really no actual reason to break it off is there? Either that or maybe its time for you guys to try going on a break, give a little breathing room to each other and maybe realize how much you mean to one another
hope this helps a little
Yeah, that's probably the plan. It's just that there's those moments of doubt when I worry about, oh, everything. Especially my relationship with him. Just to put stuff in perspective: I am moderately depressed, so I really get moments of doubt.
Thanks for the support everyone. :] It was just a moment of doubt, which always seems worse when it's long distance. But a mutual friend just told me that we were too similar (or scary) for our own good. So I'm confident again. :]