so here's what happened,

about 2 months ago i met what seemed like the most perfect girl in the world.
i asked her out and quickly after that we started to date as boyfriend and girlfriend.
due to her parents we were not able to go out on actual dates but we could hang out after school together for a couple of hours.
now its our one month anniversary and everything seems fine.
we hang out after school for a few hours and she seems compleatly happy and content.
Friday night we didn't talk because she went on a retreat to get confirmed.
about halfway though Saturday i get a message on face book that says "i need to talk to you"
instantly i knew this was bad news and that we were probably going to break up. she tells me that her parents found out about us and they were making her break up with me, and that she sat down and thought about things and came to the conclusion that she wasn't happy with us.
so we break up, im kinda angry and we get into a fight.
the next day we talk it over and both agreed that we said somethings we didn't mean and now she told me that we could be friends. and as i thought it over i realized that i couldn't ever "just" be her friend. with how i still feel about her and knowing that im her "friend" would be complete torture.
so i come to ask you, is there anything more than a friend?
i cant imagine having to just see her and just say hi and keep going.
i know "get over her and move on" but i cant. i never felt this way before about anybody.
is there anything that can be done?
what do i do now? how do i act around her, or when i see her in the hallway?
i haven't told her lets just be "friends" because i still need to think about it. but maybe you guys could help me.
im sure it would be easier to just be friends if it didn't work out for both of us. but i still have all these massive feelings for her.
help?

In my experience, there is no such thing as just being friends. Keep that in mind. Also I have learned if a girl really likes you she will do anything for you, even going against her parents wishes. Another thing to keep in mind...

First thing you need to do is commit to not getting back together with her. In your head and in your heart you will have this hope that you can get back together with her. You need to squash it. It will take time and it will be hard, but you need to do it. It was a 2 month relationship so it is not worth fighting for. Limit contact with her, only talk to her when you have to, not when you want to. Just do everything you can to get her out of your head.

Its hard, but I hope the best for you. And remember good things fall apart so great things can come together.

>>2 is spot on. You can't be just friends with her, because you still have feelings for her. I think you should explain this to her, so that she understands it. You will be able to be friends with her only when you stop loving her.

Also, I would stop meeting her too much. You can also explain that to her. You are in pain when you meet her, so for the moment it would be better if you reduce exposure. This does not mean that you should not say hi or be rude or ignore her. Just don't spend time with her. That's why it's better to explain these things to her, otherwise she may misinterpret things. Once/if you get over your feelings, and you give up on her, you may be able to spend more time with her.

>remember good things fall apart so great things can come together.

Very rightly so. I think it's great you could experience such feelings. Hopefully you will soon be able to share them with someone able to retribute them to you.

similiar thing happened to me, me and my girlfriend dated for almost 2 months and her parents make us break up. we decided to stay friends but after a while her parent gives us their blessing because they see how unhappy she was after breaking up. and now we're back together again.

thanks guys for your advice.
and im sure you know this stuff isn't anything i want to hear.
im still waiting for the "keep up the hope dude! everything will be fine and you guys will get back together." but i know its never going to come and that its never going to happen.

unfortunately, unlike >>5 her parents are not the only problem.

>remember good things fall apart so great things can come together

i like that too, but it seems to me that its more like "great things fall apart so i can go back to being alone and depressed until another great thing comes along to get my hopes up again just to crush me."
heh.

i know this probably all sounds pathetic, but everything i do reminds me of her. from getting a shower to getting out a piece of paper to writing something down in class. its like there's a memory of her everywhere i go. i feel like I've lost all motivation to do anything. like i try to do something and all of the sudden im just like "whats the point?"
who do i have to look good for now? or paint paintings for? or wait around in the hallways and being a little late to all of my classes because i walked with her to hers?

i guess i should update. im not sure if you guys care how its going or not.

but today was the first day of school (had Monday off) and it was harder than i expected. i asked her to bring in a thing i made for her so i could get it graded (made it in AP drawing) and she sat down next to me and it seemed so far away, and i didn't expect it would hurt so much to see her. i think she realized that so she got up and looked around with her other friend for somebody that she knew wasn't there today.
and i just sat there.
when they came back they went a couple feet past me in the hallway and stayed there until the bell rang where she had her friend come and get her backpack next to me and give it to her as she went the opposite way that i go, which she never went. (back stairs takes longer so she didn't use them)
i had the hardest time in classes because all i used to do was write her notes and think about her but its like what do i do now?
ill fast forward to the end of the day.
i found myself behind her in the hallway and i said hi and she said hi back and i couldn't think of what i wanted to say when i actually saw her so i just followed her. we went outside and the first person we see is this fucking douche bag that tried to break us up when we first started going out. he was basically harassing her and when i talked/threatened him he wouldn't listen, so she talked to him and he stopped but he became her "friend." which is bullshit because all he wants to do is try to be there for her and do things for her so she will start to like him. anyway he gave her an entire box of taco bell and she started talking to him and it was disgusting, i wanted to be sick right there. it was obvious what he was trying to do, and i was being ignored. so i just left and met up with some people and walked down to the Wendy's by our school.
it was possibly the worst day of my life ever, and i get to do a whole brand new one tomorrow!

>>6 no surprise in what you describe. You're experience the pain of lovesickness. As mentioned before, reduce exposure, that's all you have to do, and it's pretty simple.

And don't use the other guy as an excuse to continue dealing with her life. It's not up to you to do that anymore, and you have enough to deal with already.

There's no comfortable way out of your situation, but there are ways to minimize the time period for which you will suffer. And decide to stop meeting her is part of it.

first of all, for >>6
"dont worry dude! you'll be fine! eventually."

but it takes a while to become fine, I know for some people, they'll be fine the week after the breakup, it really depends on you. For me, it took me well over 6 months to finally get over the breakup. The first month was pure hell, I couldn't study, could barely wake up in the mornings, and no matter what i did, EVERYTHING reminded me of him, he was the only thing on my mind and I thought I would never get over him. Oh by the way, the last thing he said to me was "we'll still be friends right?"

During that time I think one of the most horrible factors that makes you so anxious and frustrated is the tiny bit of hope of "maybe he/she'll realize how great I really am and we'll get back together." What you need to do is close that up, if he/she'll really realize that, a little time away from each other shouldn't kill it.

so I had finally decided to delete him from msn and just block him out of my life, after that it was still a pretty bumpy ride, if I started daydreaming I'd somehow start thinking of him again but I was able to get on with my life a bit. It's now the 8th month of the break up and he's doing really well in another relationship now. At first I thought I could never possibly talk to him ever again, but now, after all this time I actually think I could not only talk to him as a friend again but even ask him about how he's doing with his new girlfriend. Mind you, with all that said.. I'm still deeply in love with him, but the point is that I now think that I can talk to him without feeling like there's a butcher's knife going through my heart

that's just my own little story, of course you're a guy, I have no idea how guys handle these kinds of things but hey, OP, good luck with things, maybe with her if you try to win her back, or maybe with getting over her and finding what(and who) makes you happy, whatever path you choose, try to enjoy it