I think Library Girl, you should just admire that gay guy. Because I think, that these people tend to make people around them admire them, but when you make your first move, they started to feel intimidated. They don't like it when they know that a girl like them. So, in order to make things more interesting, you should just play around with him, but don't ever tell him how you feel. That will scare him off. Give him some time, and sooner or later, he'll be chasing after you. (Just an opinion though)