I recently started going out with this girl, not because I genuinely liked her, but becasue I wanted to have sex with her. I know I shouldn't have done that but she's just so sexy and all my attempts at trying to hook up with her failed, and I felt like this was the only way to have sex with her. I was planning on hitting it and quitting it, but I don't think my conscience is going to let me. After spending so much time with her I've learned just how emotionally challenged she really is. She's told me about how much child abuse she went through when she was younger, how many fucked up boyfriends she's had, and how she's been raped on more than one occassion. I feel really bad for her and I want to treat her nice and take care of her, but unfortunately I just don't feel anything for her besides sympathy. As much as I want to break up with her I don't think I could because I don't want to hurt her. She's always talking about how she's really glad to be with me and tells all her friends about how much she likes me. She's just not someone I would normally get into a relationship with. Despite how pretty she is and what a great body she has, I barely even enjoy sex with her. I also find her to be very dumb and annoying. It's gotten to the point where I can't stand looking her in the eye when I'm around her. And to top it off, none of my friends like her... at all.
I want to break it off with her but I just don't know how and I don't want to hurt her. Anyone have any advice?
You're a horrible person. A really, really horrible person. Marry her, get life insurance, and kill yourself, making it look like an accident. It's best for everyone.
You got yourself into a commitment. Deal with it.
Just break up with her. It happens to everybody, so it could happen to her too. Just be sensitive, but otherwise get on with it.
start manipulating her or, start becoming distant slowly and then one day just tell her that "oh.. i think we have been apart from each other so long.. i don't really feel like im supposed to about you anymore.." just give it some time and start avoiding her a little, but so that she wouldn't notice it. It works.. but she will remember you forever, as she's deeply in luw with you after you break her. That's all!
>>2 wow, that is....such a great idea, lol
can you put some description on her dumb and annoying personality?
its weird but I have a thing for girls who had a bad history, or had a bad experience.
anyways back to the point, give abit more detail on what you do with her usually and in detail, why is she that to you.
If you want to break up with her, the easiest way people do, is have an affair..and intentionally tell her you did so, because you admit your a bad guy. itll be a soft break up, you can even lighten it more by saying ull stick as friends, before SLOWLY phasing out of her life.
stratch my previous comment off before you read it cos now Im thinking your girl must be the emotionally attrached ones and not the others...
you should get to know her more, maybe shes behaving like this for a reason? well once you open up to her with your bad habits, make her break up with you....just act like a bastard and a dick with her, she'll break up for you, or at least when you say it, she wont feel lik theres a big gap in her life.
Wow. Allot of terrible advice in this thread.
First of all, OP, you are terrible. You had no problem manipulating this poor woman into believing that you loved her. That's low. You want to break it off but your conscience won't let you? Congratulations! Now you have to live with that. No matter what you do at this point her heart will be broken, even if you stay with her. Trust me, a relationship based on honor instead of love just can't last.
But...
Time heals all wounds. Come clean with her, BE THERE FOR HER (perhaps explain how you feel sympathetic towards her personal problems,) and let time do it's thing. She'll get over it eventually, and so will you. Life goes on.
I'm still steaming mad at you, OP. But I hope you've learned not to fuck with peoples hearts.