my gf.... ugh (10)

1 Name: helppmee : 2009-01-04 04:07 ID:EOspI6z4

my gf's and my friends asked us out to hang out tday. but my gf said she couldnt come cus she has to take care of her sick mother. so i told her im not coming too, but she insisted that she wanted me to come. so i told her that idk if im gnna come. after several phone calls from my friends, i decided to go..

well.. guess what. my gf was there, idk if she lied abt her sick mom but shes there w/o even telling me. surprise? nope it wasnt. appearantly, she said her mum is sick so that she could say shes not coming so i wouldnt come and she get to hang out w her friends.. i didnt even want to meet her, i just stormed out out of pissed. i havent talked to her till nw.

any thoughts guys?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-04 04:34 ID:Heaven

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3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-04 04:53 ID:maj4JSdK

Did she tell you that she lied to you on purpose? Did she tell you that she never intended to let you know that she could come after telling you she couldn't? Is her mother really sick? I think you're assuming a lot if you aren't sure on any of that. Find out before you get mad at her.

You guys don't have to do everything together. Are these friends your friends as well as her friends -- aka "mutual" friends? Or are they two separate groups -- your mutual friends in the first part and her friends in the second? That's not quite clear to me so I'll give you advice for both situations:

If they are separate friends, you shouldn't get mad at her for wanting to visit her friends by herself. You two are together but you both have to live your own lives, and just because you're dating her doesn't mean all of her friends magically become your friends. If this is what really happened then you have to let her be and let her enjoy her friends and you separately. She has her own life, and you should let her live it even when it doesn't involve you.

If they are your mutual friends -- as in you and her both knew them and all hung out together before you started dating -- that's a problem. Your mutual friends are her friends, but they are yours too, and she shouldn't keep you away from them to because you are a part of that group too. If this is what happened then you have every right to get mad at her because she did lie to you to get you away from your friends, and she shouldn't do that.

Clarify some details for us (like the questions at the top ^^^^ ) and I'll try to help a little more. :)

4 Name: helppmee : 2009-01-04 05:06 ID:EOspI6z4

i was just assuming.. but yes. these friends are mutual friends.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-04 05:31 ID:maj4JSdK

Oh. Well, that sucks. :(

Try to see if her mom is really sick or not. If she is, her mom might have let her go despite being sick and she might have been telling the truth.

Just calm down and find out if her mom is really sick or not. If she is, you should assume that she said no because she felt like she had to stay, but her mom might have said she could go anyways and she just didn't have the chance to tell you.

If it turns out she did lie to you, then you have the right to be angry at her.

6 Name: helppmee : 2009-01-04 05:37 ID:EOspI6z4

i still dont have th spirit calling her.. and what really got me is, why didnt she even tell me? it just feels like she has th time for her friends but not me =(

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-04 06:12 ID:maj4JSdK

She may have honestly not thought to tell you, she might have intended to but forgot.

If she didn't say anything on purpose you should ask her. I think this is a case of miscommunication and you need to check with her before you get mad over things that may not have actually happened.

She could just be dating you to say she's dating someone. Hopefully that isn't the case but it's not uncommon.

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-28 04:04 ID:Pyjxkdax

"I just stormed out out of pissed."
Honestly, your grammar is terrible. That sentence should have read "I just stormed out, out of piss."

9 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-28 04:34 ID:kbSIomf2

from what i could understand, she lied to you because she didnt want to see you. you have a problem. try to solve if not, end it.

10 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-29 17:51 ID:Heaven

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