Hi all. I really need some advice on my current situation.
I'm a lesbian, and I met a girl on OkCupid about half a year ago. I wasn't interested in her romantically, but we watched anime together online every week. Suddenly, about three months ago, she began flirting. I was entirely taken off-guard. She's really, really pretty, popular, socially normal-ish, and out of my league. I hadn't even considered the possibility of being with her, but when I realized that it was possible, I quickly fell for her, hard. I flirted back, of course, and she asked me to go on a date with her a few weeks later. We live only an hour from each-other, so I drove to see her and had the best time of my life. We met offline again a few days later, but we met at her house and I felt really awkward around her family. After that, she began straying, and told me a couple of days before Christmas that she didn't want to date again and just wanted to be friends.
At this point my heart was basically pulled out of my chest, thrown on the ground, and stomped upon. I'm sure a lot of you know how it feels. She still wanted to be friends, though. Tonight she called me while I was asleep and cried to me for three hours about how the girl she's been dating since Christmas (?!) and kissed on New Years (?!!) is suicidal. I was honest with her and told her that she's ridiculous and stupid for dating a suicidal girl.
Somehow, by the end of the night, I was convinced to pick her up at work tomorrow and take her out for milkshakes and go to a movie to cheer her up. She insisted that she's "more than friends" with suicidal bitch and that this isn't a date between us.
Should I try to put the moves on her and show her that I'm a million times more fun than an emo, depressed, suicidal chick, or should I be content remaining in the Friend Zone, somehow? Please help me! I leave for the date at 1:00 EST.
Well, I wouldn't call the other girl a "bitch" (what has she done wrong), but for sure I also wouldn't waste such an opportunity to get closer to her. Nevertheless, from what she says, you have quite a bit of work in front of you, starting from understanding what she is afraid of.
Three way lesbian rape tiem.
OP here. The date went really well. So well, in fact, that she invited me back to her place afterwards. We cuddled and watched anime. It was great. But still, she's seeing the other girl.
What should I do? Should I just try to go with the flow or actively push for her?
I think that since you are smitten for the girl, you should go for it. It won't be easy, it may be painful, but perhaps you will win her over. I don't see as yet a reason to stop.
I think this chick is fucking stupid. She goes on a great date with you, and then hooks up with another chick a couple days later and is getting into the relationship way too seriously for them having only been together a few weeks and dealing with her emo bullshit.
captcha: daw.
Girls are suckers for emo bullshit. Sex 'em up, drag them into being all emotional over you or anything, really, and bam, hooks are in, they dote, and you win by being a loser.
Happens all the time.
honestly if she's already gone out with you a few times, and its been great and is suddenly with someone else then you should move on and find someone who's not going to pull that crap on you.
If she's into suicidal chicks maybe she's too much of a drama llama to keep as a target.