Where to go from here? (4)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-19 19:56 ID:3Zf8qN0/

We've known each other for years. We've been attracted to each other for years. We've avoided getting together for years. Now we're together.

We have a lot more in common than we used to, but we're still very awkward with each other. We've been on a few dates, and on our second date (which came more than four months after the first date, due to our hectic schedules), it took like, two and a half hours for us to start holding hands and cuddling.

Most days we run into each other on campus and hang out a little there, but other than that, we almost never talk on anything but AIM. I leave the occasional message when I can't get to a computer, and she calls me occasionally to talk about something serious, but other than that... All AIM.

Even though we're dating, we can go days without seeing each other, though after a few days I go out of my way to see her, and she does the same.... Though, we both do it pretending we don't notice the other doing it.

I don't know what she's thinking. I'm starting to become a little bit more open with her now, but she also doesn't know what I'm thinking, to a large extent. We are shy and awkward.

My friends tell me I should call more often. I want to call more often but don't want to be clingy. Also, we both hate phones, and neither of us want an extremely heavy relationship. Also, there is nothing to talk about.

Where do I go from here, 4-ch?

tl;dr: We're both awkward as hell, it's taken us a long time to get started, and I have no idea what to do next.

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-19 20:09 ID:Ezp7T3dZ

Do things together so that you get used to each other's exclusive company. Do you have common interests? Can you use those to have a common activity?

The only solution to your problem is to spend time together and have fun in each other's company. It's as simple as that.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-19 20:29 ID:6tUcj/Uj

i have nearly the same problem as you atm, though we haven't been going out for as long as you guys. (girl here btw)
I'm really afraid of being clingy and annoying so we only write a few times and normally something along the lines of
"hi!! :D"
"heya!"
"whats up?"
"nothin' much"
"ah okay.."

>__< and i really have no idea how to progress from there D:

4 Name: Akina : 2009-01-31 23:42 ID:DHl0f4e4

> same problem here >.<

Although we haven't even gotten to holding hands yet. But I suggest that you try to move things along faster, when you have nothing to talk about think of random questions. I (try) to do this... Think of a question that makes your gf feel akward and hafta think. Like "What would you do if you found out I got another girl preggers?" or something like that.

This thread has been closed. You cannot post in this thread any longer.