I've been told that I am very open and honest, and that it is really easy to trust me. (8)

1 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-23 20:41 ID:It33blGi

Apparently, this is a bad thing, because that permanently removes me from the set of people one would fall in love with, because it's just too easy to be friends with me.

I kind of don't want to believe that, because the consequence from that would have to be to be less open, and less honest - essentially, to lie about who I am.

So, 4-ch, I'm asking you to please help me, if you can: The above is utter bullshit because...?

2 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-23 23:18 ID:E4HxtZJs

...because there is still a chance that someone will love you for this. Although it ranges in the 1/1.000.000.000 or something like this.

I'm sorry dude. I'm in the same boat.

3 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-23 23:34 ID:8DVEaMCm

I'm like that too. But remember that people are stupid. When you find someone who loves you then you'll know it wouldn't have been worth it to change.

4 Name: 1 : 2009-01-23 23:46 ID:Heaven

> remember that people are stupid

I kind of know too many great people to buy into that.

5 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-01-24 10:20 ID:xHSLSzPo

My significant other is a woman who is very open, frank and honest. Basically she says exactly what she thinks, and that is a big reason why I go out with her: I don't need to worry about what she thinks or worries about, since she let's me know.

I know she sometimes had problems because of these traits, but I'm sure our relationship would not have lasted without them.

6 Name: Daydreamer : 2009-02-07 23:49 ID:wb3sIYGw

Are you a guy or a girl?
I think that for a girl this would be an advantage, actually. Men always have trouble understanding women, because they're less direct about their feelings than men are, right?

Also, being less open doesn't have to mean lying about who you are. You could also just be a bit more reserved about the things you tell people.
I'm not sure if it's a good idea to try to become less outgoing, though, because I'm on the "shy and introverted" end of the spectrum, and it's not so much fun here either.

7 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-08 04:46 ID:3wnRelJj

>>6 brings good points: better to find someone who appretiates your traits than to fight your own nature to fit the other person

8 Name: Secret Admirer : 2009-02-09 04:39 ID:eN+JYOh2

If you have nothing else, just try talking about romance to the girl; I doubt you do THAT often, and she'll look at you differently.

You have more power than you know, just assert your wants in addition to caring for others.

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